Hi everyone, I'm new here and am freaking out over a letter I got from the CRA. First some history...
Back in the summer of 2003, my husband was removed from our family home and charged by the police with assaulting me, which he did right in front of our two beautiful girls. There was a no contact order put in place. Everything was documented. As a result of this incident, I began filing my taxes as "seperated" effective the day he was carted off.
I just received a notice from the CRA saying it appears we are still spouses. They are asking for 3 pieces of specific proof that we are seperated. BUT, I cannot offer any proof that he does not live with me since he continued to use my address without permission. He has no rental agreements or utility bills etc., and never changed his bank records or anything else.
Since leaving, he has not maintained another stable residence at all. He's basically a transient, couch surfing with friends until they tire of him. On the rare occasion that he's worked, I guess he's been giving my address to his employers which is why the CRA sent me this alarming letter.
Admittedly, I have gotten mail for him on occassion. But without much thought, I've simply given it to whatever "neutral third party" we used on the rare occassion that he's seen the children.
My marital status has HUGE tax implications for me with regard to child care expenses, since such expenses can only be claimed by the spouse with the lower income (him).
Going back to 2003, in order to resolve the assault charge, he attended some court-imposed councilling (PARS program). After "successful completion", he got a suspended sentance. At the time I wanted to believe we could work things out, but that never actually happened. I got my courage together pretty quickly and refused to expose my kids to any more fights. But at court I may well have indicated a willingness to take him back -- I frankly don't remember.
Please, if anyone knows how I can explain this to the CRA, let me know!!
I am desperate and could face an assessment well over $10,000 if they disallow 3 years worth of child care expenses for both of my daughters
Back in the summer of 2003, my husband was removed from our family home and charged by the police with assaulting me, which he did right in front of our two beautiful girls. There was a no contact order put in place. Everything was documented. As a result of this incident, I began filing my taxes as "seperated" effective the day he was carted off.
I just received a notice from the CRA saying it appears we are still spouses. They are asking for 3 pieces of specific proof that we are seperated. BUT, I cannot offer any proof that he does not live with me since he continued to use my address without permission. He has no rental agreements or utility bills etc., and never changed his bank records or anything else.
Since leaving, he has not maintained another stable residence at all. He's basically a transient, couch surfing with friends until they tire of him. On the rare occasion that he's worked, I guess he's been giving my address to his employers which is why the CRA sent me this alarming letter.
Admittedly, I have gotten mail for him on occassion. But without much thought, I've simply given it to whatever "neutral third party" we used on the rare occassion that he's seen the children.
My marital status has HUGE tax implications for me with regard to child care expenses, since such expenses can only be claimed by the spouse with the lower income (him).
Going back to 2003, in order to resolve the assault charge, he attended some court-imposed councilling (PARS program). After "successful completion", he got a suspended sentance. At the time I wanted to believe we could work things out, but that never actually happened. I got my courage together pretty quickly and refused to expose my kids to any more fights. But at court I may well have indicated a willingness to take him back -- I frankly don't remember.
Please, if anyone knows how I can explain this to the CRA, let me know!!
I am desperate and could face an assessment well over $10,000 if they disallow 3 years worth of child care expenses for both of my daughters
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