I am new here and approaching my wits end.
After 20 years of marriage and full time care of four kids, my ex told me I had 24 hours to vacate the house or they would "place all my junk on the street".
That was last November. Since then we have been in mediation twice, had a case conference where $650 monthly spousal support, and all common household expenses were ordered. 'As long as we resided under the same roof'. (this was April).
My ex then vacated the home with one of the four children (in an admitted effort to avoid payment) and has subsequently stopped paying anything other than the mortgage.
I haven't received a penny for basic necessities (including food) for either myself or the other three teens since May.
in addition, my ex has gone on "extended stress leave" and is claiming that the reduced income (which they suggest may be permanent) doesn't allow sufficient income for support.
They earned roughly $120,000.00 last year, have a sizeable pension, RRSP's and still claim that I will get nothing out of this. There have been several Joint Family Property statements including assessments on pensions/the home etc.
They have done everything possible to avoid any settlement.
My concern is that I was re-entering the workforce at age 52 when this all occurred. I do not have a stable position (on a daily or weekly contract basis in order to establish credentials as is the norm in this industry). I have three older teenagers to support and legal bills already pushing over $20,000.00.
Currently I have 5 weeks work but some weeks it is only 2 days. The standard is 2 years verifiable experience before I can be hired full time across the industry.
I cannot afford to get out of the matrimonial home and cannot afford to stay here (as was recognized in the court order at the case conference).
I also don't have funds left to pay for lawyers....
any comments are welcome
After 20 years of marriage and full time care of four kids, my ex told me I had 24 hours to vacate the house or they would "place all my junk on the street".
That was last November. Since then we have been in mediation twice, had a case conference where $650 monthly spousal support, and all common household expenses were ordered. 'As long as we resided under the same roof'. (this was April).
My ex then vacated the home with one of the four children (in an admitted effort to avoid payment) and has subsequently stopped paying anything other than the mortgage.
I haven't received a penny for basic necessities (including food) for either myself or the other three teens since May.
in addition, my ex has gone on "extended stress leave" and is claiming that the reduced income (which they suggest may be permanent) doesn't allow sufficient income for support.
They earned roughly $120,000.00 last year, have a sizeable pension, RRSP's and still claim that I will get nothing out of this. There have been several Joint Family Property statements including assessments on pensions/the home etc.
They have done everything possible to avoid any settlement.
My concern is that I was re-entering the workforce at age 52 when this all occurred. I do not have a stable position (on a daily or weekly contract basis in order to establish credentials as is the norm in this industry). I have three older teenagers to support and legal bills already pushing over $20,000.00.
Currently I have 5 weeks work but some weeks it is only 2 days. The standard is 2 years verifiable experience before I can be hired full time across the industry.
I cannot afford to get out of the matrimonial home and cannot afford to stay here (as was recognized in the court order at the case conference).
I also don't have funds left to pay for lawyers....
any comments are welcome
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