Help,
We were refused OCL involvement which from everything I have read about them being so mother biased may be a very positive thing for us.
Now opposing are proposing a parenting access assessment done. We do not have any money and know this can run from 12,000 to 30,000.
Can someone explain what a section 30 is in simple terms and if that effects the cost of an access assessment?
We don't really know what to do here.
Goal here is to retain joint custody as she is trying to oust my fiancee out of the kids lives or make him a bare minimum visitor. She doesn't believe in shared christmas/ holidays/ etc and thinks he only should get EOW plus 2 weeks to be approved by her. She has no cause to change Status quo other than she creates conflict to prove non cooperation. She keeps minimizing access, took him to FRO - he was paying so added confusion now as their is no court order, and she regularly threatens and dictates how and when we can see the children. She is a master manipulator and I think it would require a highly trained individual to see through her performance art or mental instability. There are multiple concerns about the children (we went to CAS - but they closed the case and won't tell us their findings) but we want to promote access to both parents and know our presence in their lives is necessary to counter balance the unstable controlling stuff they deal with weekly. (for example: if they misbehave she throws their toys out or locks them in their room).
It is our belief that she thinks she can outsmart any assessor and thinks she will be awarded sole custody because she is the mom. She has long ago begun her brainwashing of the kids - it is so sad to see them so confused with misinformation. This is a game of power and money.
To us, this is a fight to protect the kids and to maintain his rights as a father to be in their lives. We don't want to keep getting into further debt as we worry we will lose the house but we are stuck half way through this sticky horrible mess.
Do we chance it with a judge, case conference in July, then settlement conferences and then most likely trial as she agrees to nothing ever?
or do we pay the last of what we have available in credit to an assessor and hope that it leads to resolution within 3 months? If the assessor suggests continuing with joint custody she will fight it and then we'll have nothing left to pay for a trial.
Which path to take for fast and fair resolution???
We were refused OCL involvement which from everything I have read about them being so mother biased may be a very positive thing for us.
Now opposing are proposing a parenting access assessment done. We do not have any money and know this can run from 12,000 to 30,000.
Can someone explain what a section 30 is in simple terms and if that effects the cost of an access assessment?
We don't really know what to do here.
Goal here is to retain joint custody as she is trying to oust my fiancee out of the kids lives or make him a bare minimum visitor. She doesn't believe in shared christmas/ holidays/ etc and thinks he only should get EOW plus 2 weeks to be approved by her. She has no cause to change Status quo other than she creates conflict to prove non cooperation. She keeps minimizing access, took him to FRO - he was paying so added confusion now as their is no court order, and she regularly threatens and dictates how and when we can see the children. She is a master manipulator and I think it would require a highly trained individual to see through her performance art or mental instability. There are multiple concerns about the children (we went to CAS - but they closed the case and won't tell us their findings) but we want to promote access to both parents and know our presence in their lives is necessary to counter balance the unstable controlling stuff they deal with weekly. (for example: if they misbehave she throws their toys out or locks them in their room).
It is our belief that she thinks she can outsmart any assessor and thinks she will be awarded sole custody because she is the mom. She has long ago begun her brainwashing of the kids - it is so sad to see them so confused with misinformation. This is a game of power and money.
To us, this is a fight to protect the kids and to maintain his rights as a father to be in their lives. We don't want to keep getting into further debt as we worry we will lose the house but we are stuck half way through this sticky horrible mess.
Do we chance it with a judge, case conference in July, then settlement conferences and then most likely trial as she agrees to nothing ever?
or do we pay the last of what we have available in credit to an assessor and hope that it leads to resolution within 3 months? If the assessor suggests continuing with joint custody she will fight it and then we'll have nothing left to pay for a trial.
Which path to take for fast and fair resolution???
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