Soon to be ex works out of provice at times. Over 30 thousand in owed support. Fro is involved. Collecting, however, he just came back and is looking for a job locally. Took a lay off, unemployed right now. He won't put in writing when he will pick up our child and bring him home. I had a situation when I allowed a very flexible visit schedule, to have him tell me I was working too much and he could not look for work due to me being unavailable to care for him. This certainly was never the case, and of course made me change my ways, and get it all in writing so I could then prove that I did not take advantage of my son being with his father. It feared me.
Yesterday, he picked up our child from school, and brought him home 30 minutes earlier than planned. Fine, but what if I were not home? At the door he asks if he can pick up our child at school in front of our kid. I said call later and I will check my book. He did not call. I got a text at 2am saying he was picking up our child at school. I said no. That all plans need to be made in advance. I have a note from his grandparents that they will be picking up our child on friday and returning him home on Sunday. PERFECT. My soon to be ex, will not do it stating I'm controlling.
He also accuses me of drinking and carrying on when it is so far from the truth and just wicked. He is in arrears, alot. I still let him see the child, because I am a good mom and I do not want a sad little person around.
He has sent me a text stating he is picking up the child at school and that's all there is to it.
This is not right. I have sole custody, but he is making it so difficult.
He is never available. I couldn't reach him all last night to confirm today. His phone was not on, and he was not answering texts. He just does not want to deal with me. Its nasty, and it hurts the child.
I am feeling forced to let the visit just go ahead due to the grief it will cause with the child, however, it is my concern that rules are not being followed, and he just does not care about how I parent my child.
Can I do anything about it? I have told my lawyer. He said I am the boss at this point. I just want it to be easier for my little boy. Child support isn't up to date, he is here not working and unavailable for our child to call him, yet he wants to exercise his rights. I just am tapped out!
Yesterday, he picked up our child from school, and brought him home 30 minutes earlier than planned. Fine, but what if I were not home? At the door he asks if he can pick up our child at school in front of our kid. I said call later and I will check my book. He did not call. I got a text at 2am saying he was picking up our child at school. I said no. That all plans need to be made in advance. I have a note from his grandparents that they will be picking up our child on friday and returning him home on Sunday. PERFECT. My soon to be ex, will not do it stating I'm controlling.
He also accuses me of drinking and carrying on when it is so far from the truth and just wicked. He is in arrears, alot. I still let him see the child, because I am a good mom and I do not want a sad little person around.
He has sent me a text stating he is picking up the child at school and that's all there is to it.
This is not right. I have sole custody, but he is making it so difficult.
He is never available. I couldn't reach him all last night to confirm today. His phone was not on, and he was not answering texts. He just does not want to deal with me. Its nasty, and it hurts the child.
I am feeling forced to let the visit just go ahead due to the grief it will cause with the child, however, it is my concern that rules are not being followed, and he just does not care about how I parent my child.
Can I do anything about it? I have told my lawyer. He said I am the boss at this point. I just want it to be easier for my little boy. Child support isn't up to date, he is here not working and unavailable for our child to call him, yet he wants to exercise his rights. I just am tapped out!
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