I know...why would one even have to post about this...
"Joint custody" of D4.
Holidays are coming, and I would like to get some family pictures again, before the kids get too old.
But... for some reason, "haircuts" for my D4 are an absolute issue with Mom. I ask Mom to look into it if she's particular about it, and if she can't, then I can pay and look into it. But someone needs to do it. It doesn't matter if you bring up to her, that you want to book pictures, or a special family event is coming up. She outright refuses - not just refuses, but threatens as well.
My daughter has asked about getting her hair cut. (she's at the age, 4, where she is very "dress-up", and play-princess, etc - her friends show up, etc...) I mean, this is a normal "little girl" thing.
When I got my daughters bangs trimmed out of her eyes before, when this first came up, I didn't see her for the next 2 weeks. (it's always documented). Mom made an issue of how daughter looked after, which was ridiculous, since we got pictures of her at the time (reason for trimming) and she looked so much better. Mom's threats when you mention this include "You touch her hair again...I'll take you to court." "I'll ask for a non-molestation order" "she doesn't need a cute haircut!" "Try me!" etc.
So, I don't do anything for her hair anymore...and I have dropped bringing it up in the interim, with Mom, to avoid the 'crazy', but...I don't think this is unreasonable. And here is Christmas coming yet again.
Is this a "leave it be" situation, or am I "walking on eggshells" in a ridiculous way?
"Joint custody" of D4.
Holidays are coming, and I would like to get some family pictures again, before the kids get too old.
But... for some reason, "haircuts" for my D4 are an absolute issue with Mom. I ask Mom to look into it if she's particular about it, and if she can't, then I can pay and look into it. But someone needs to do it. It doesn't matter if you bring up to her, that you want to book pictures, or a special family event is coming up. She outright refuses - not just refuses, but threatens as well.
My daughter has asked about getting her hair cut. (she's at the age, 4, where she is very "dress-up", and play-princess, etc - her friends show up, etc...) I mean, this is a normal "little girl" thing.
When I got my daughters bangs trimmed out of her eyes before, when this first came up, I didn't see her for the next 2 weeks. (it's always documented). Mom made an issue of how daughter looked after, which was ridiculous, since we got pictures of her at the time (reason for trimming) and she looked so much better. Mom's threats when you mention this include "You touch her hair again...I'll take you to court." "I'll ask for a non-molestation order" "she doesn't need a cute haircut!" "Try me!" etc.
So, I don't do anything for her hair anymore...and I have dropped bringing it up in the interim, with Mom, to avoid the 'crazy', but...I don't think this is unreasonable. And here is Christmas coming yet again.
Is this a "leave it be" situation, or am I "walking on eggshells" in a ridiculous way?
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