She's 19 with some kind of psychological disorder. I'm not sure what it is, but I'm 100% certain there is something not right with her. We were never really together. I was going through a divorce and she gave me attention when I needed it. I am concerned that she is not properly taking care of herself. I mean, I tried to even get her to take a test and she wouldn't for weeks and weeks. And then, when I tried to get her into a midwife, she refused. I tried to express how important prenatal vitamins are and folic acid, but she didn't seem too interested. She did though indicate that she wanted to keep the baby. When I told her that I intended on raising the child (because she obviously can't - you have to believe me when I say that - I am not just saying that) she cut all forms of communication off and out of her life. So I have no idea how the pregnancy is going or anything.
I don't know what to do.
I understand that I can't start any legal proceedings until the child is born. But how will I know when the child is born? How will I know the name to put in the legal forms? I don't know her birthday. Frankly, I know very little about her.
I am 35 and have a 4 year old son, which I have visitation to 3 days a week. His mother is a good mother. She seems to think she can raise a child but she can't even take care of herself. Fortunately, most of our correspondence was done via chat so I have a very good record of what happened and aside from a lack of judgement in hooking up with her to begin with, it is very damning for her. I won't go into those detail here, but again you'll have to trust me that there is nothing good in there for her. It's all damaging in the sense of her ability to even properly care for herself.
I do intend on seeking custody. I just don't know how to do it with her shutting me out. I have no info and know nothing, except her name. I think the child is supposed to be due in September, October, maybe November.
I am thinking of contacting children's aid for intervention at birth, but is that my only option? Is that even an option?
Can somebody help me? I'd be happy to explain more, if needed.
I don't know what to do.
I understand that I can't start any legal proceedings until the child is born. But how will I know when the child is born? How will I know the name to put in the legal forms? I don't know her birthday. Frankly, I know very little about her.
I am 35 and have a 4 year old son, which I have visitation to 3 days a week. His mother is a good mother. She seems to think she can raise a child but she can't even take care of herself. Fortunately, most of our correspondence was done via chat so I have a very good record of what happened and aside from a lack of judgement in hooking up with her to begin with, it is very damning for her. I won't go into those detail here, but again you'll have to trust me that there is nothing good in there for her. It's all damaging in the sense of her ability to even properly care for herself.
I do intend on seeking custody. I just don't know how to do it with her shutting me out. I have no info and know nothing, except her name. I think the child is supposed to be due in September, October, maybe November.
I am thinking of contacting children's aid for intervention at birth, but is that my only option? Is that even an option?
Can somebody help me? I'd be happy to explain more, if needed.
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