Hi again everyone,
I need opinions... again.
There are so many small issues going on, that I am losing my focus. I need some opinions about what you guys think is worth a fight or not.
a. Ex wants 50% share of extraordinary expenses. (LOTS (lots) of orthodontics to come.) My lawyer thinks we should insist on proportionate to our income. (a 8% difference). I am undecided.
b. Ex refuses to pay or participate in any extracurricular activities. No cooperation. (My lawyer thinks we can talk some sense into him. LOL) I would gladly pay for all future activities, if he would only drive them there on his week.
c. stalling and trying to prevent dental and health care. (OK, I have a case for health care. Do the same rules apply for dental care?)
d. won`t let me communicate regularly with kids during his week (I used to call once a week; now he won`t answer or return calls.)
e. ex lies to me, to the kids about me, to the school on important matters.
f. does not comply with our separation agreement about the beneficiary of his life insurance. (I will fight this one.)
g. has undisclosed income. (I`m keeping that ace in my hand for now.)
Background info : CS is offset of our income. Ex doesn`t pay a dime in anything other than CS.
Ex has tendency to provoke conflict (or so I feel) and to push the limits. I am of the opinion that I need to fight even the little battles, or he will step all over me, as he has before.
I am undecided between calling it quits, paying for everything and hoping I`ll have peace and quiet OR pushing forward, because I am afraid the conflicts won`t really stop even if I opt for the previous option.
With the speed of our law system, I will lose my mind before my kids turn 18. If you guys see my mind, send it my way, with a bit of wisdom.
Thank you so much.
I need opinions... again.
There are so many small issues going on, that I am losing my focus. I need some opinions about what you guys think is worth a fight or not.
a. Ex wants 50% share of extraordinary expenses. (LOTS (lots) of orthodontics to come.) My lawyer thinks we should insist on proportionate to our income. (a 8% difference). I am undecided.
b. Ex refuses to pay or participate in any extracurricular activities. No cooperation. (My lawyer thinks we can talk some sense into him. LOL) I would gladly pay for all future activities, if he would only drive them there on his week.
c. stalling and trying to prevent dental and health care. (OK, I have a case for health care. Do the same rules apply for dental care?)
d. won`t let me communicate regularly with kids during his week (I used to call once a week; now he won`t answer or return calls.)
e. ex lies to me, to the kids about me, to the school on important matters.
f. does not comply with our separation agreement about the beneficiary of his life insurance. (I will fight this one.)
g. has undisclosed income. (I`m keeping that ace in my hand for now.)
Background info : CS is offset of our income. Ex doesn`t pay a dime in anything other than CS.
Ex has tendency to provoke conflict (or so I feel) and to push the limits. I am of the opinion that I need to fight even the little battles, or he will step all over me, as he has before.
I am undecided between calling it quits, paying for everything and hoping I`ll have peace and quiet OR pushing forward, because I am afraid the conflicts won`t really stop even if I opt for the previous option.
With the speed of our law system, I will lose my mind before my kids turn 18. If you guys see my mind, send it my way, with a bit of wisdom.
Thank you so much.
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