I thought I would share my great news about the meeting with the OCL today. She recommended sole custody to me for our daughter and that I would consult with her father and get his input but the final decision would be mine.
The one thing that I believe will be a challenge for both of us is the co-parenting sessions that we are to do. It started ok for the meeting in the room with his lawyer, ex, OCL and myself, and when he was told that he did everything that was asked of him, etc...
He also lied so badly (still) in front of the OCL to try and make me look bad, but I had facts etc, and he got angry when I stated the fact. I got very good advice to be quiet, listen and not speak too much (to be honest the "not speak" was the hardest !) especially when he was lying through his teeth.
Thankfully I had the evidence to show that he was lying. His lawyer was nasty to me.....Told me that I could be earning more, and that "poor" him was not making much money........She told me that I didn't even hold a job....The OCL told her that she was wrong, and his lawyer tried to say that I could be earning more....I did point out the fact that he's reduced his income by $ 12K in the past 3 years whereas I have doubled mine....and she still said I wasn't working enough.. I did tell her that I was anticipating earning more this year.... :-)
Anyway, the good news is our daughter is the winner here - in that she will still be getting supervised visit until she is ready, that my ex (according to OCL) has identified and worked on his problems....
As for Section 7 Expenses...apparently orthodontic treatments, RESPs are not considered. We have a Court order that states that we would both pay for the Section 7 Expenses. and he emphatically agreed with the judge that he would pay and now.....back pedalling and now he said he won't pay.
I suppose I have to reserarch Sec 7 expense and what it covers.
But all in all, while it is a wonderful result - sole custody, because it is the best possible for our child and for her benefit.
Happy.....but sad at the same time...that it had to come to this...and we as adults cannot even sit at the same table and discuss logically.
He was very mad with me in the room, and he couldn't contain his anger....oh well...that's why I left in the first place.
To those of you who helped me with the Custody issue....Thank you....It;s not over yet because we have to do the minutes of settlement and I'm sure I'll have questions still.
This has been a great Forum.
The one thing that I believe will be a challenge for both of us is the co-parenting sessions that we are to do. It started ok for the meeting in the room with his lawyer, ex, OCL and myself, and when he was told that he did everything that was asked of him, etc...
He also lied so badly (still) in front of the OCL to try and make me look bad, but I had facts etc, and he got angry when I stated the fact. I got very good advice to be quiet, listen and not speak too much (to be honest the "not speak" was the hardest !) especially when he was lying through his teeth.
Thankfully I had the evidence to show that he was lying. His lawyer was nasty to me.....Told me that I could be earning more, and that "poor" him was not making much money........She told me that I didn't even hold a job....The OCL told her that she was wrong, and his lawyer tried to say that I could be earning more....I did point out the fact that he's reduced his income by $ 12K in the past 3 years whereas I have doubled mine....and she still said I wasn't working enough.. I did tell her that I was anticipating earning more this year.... :-)
Anyway, the good news is our daughter is the winner here - in that she will still be getting supervised visit until she is ready, that my ex (according to OCL) has identified and worked on his problems....
As for Section 7 Expenses...apparently orthodontic treatments, RESPs are not considered. We have a Court order that states that we would both pay for the Section 7 Expenses. and he emphatically agreed with the judge that he would pay and now.....back pedalling and now he said he won't pay.
I suppose I have to reserarch Sec 7 expense and what it covers.
But all in all, while it is a wonderful result - sole custody, because it is the best possible for our child and for her benefit.
Happy.....but sad at the same time...that it had to come to this...and we as adults cannot even sit at the same table and discuss logically.
He was very mad with me in the room, and he couldn't contain his anger....oh well...that's why I left in the first place.
To those of you who helped me with the Custody issue....Thank you....It;s not over yet because we have to do the minutes of settlement and I'm sure I'll have questions still.
This has been a great Forum.
Comment