My high conflict ex and I tried (closed) mediation today for a parenting plan. He started court against me in the fall, we don't go to our CC until Feb.
He had been pressing for mediation, I had been resistant because he's abusive and a drama king. But trying to work things out for the kids' best interest motivated me to at least try.
I had hoped for at least some progress. But no.
I was disappointed in that the mediator didn't try to work on baby steps progress rather than trying for a home run on the first day.
Instead we went all over reliving the past, lots of blame, not much going forward talk.
Shouldn't the mediator tried better to keep us on track?
I thought he'd do that but I didn't see much of that.
What should I have expected?
If we do another session (after we meet with a counsellor), what can I do?
I've been very passive in the past year but got really rankled today when he told more lies (exaggerating bigger).
Next time I will definitely bring a photo of both boys and place it there to keep us on track.
He had been pressing for mediation, I had been resistant because he's abusive and a drama king. But trying to work things out for the kids' best interest motivated me to at least try.
I had hoped for at least some progress. But no.
I was disappointed in that the mediator didn't try to work on baby steps progress rather than trying for a home run on the first day.
Instead we went all over reliving the past, lots of blame, not much going forward talk.
Shouldn't the mediator tried better to keep us on track?
I thought he'd do that but I didn't see much of that.
What should I have expected?
If we do another session (after we meet with a counsellor), what can I do?
I've been very passive in the past year but got really rankled today when he told more lies (exaggerating bigger).
Next time I will definitely bring a photo of both boys and place it there to keep us on track.
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