I've been biting my proverbial tongue for a long time about this, but I'm gonna ask it now. The whole notion of 50/50 parenting... children live with Mom from sunday evening to wednesday morning, then go to school, and Dad picks them up from school that eve. They live with Dad from wednesday after school until saturday morning at 9am, then back to Mom's house until the following wednesday morning, when they go to school again. Then they live with Dad from wednesday after school until Sunday evening again....
The parents wind up with 50/50 parenting time, and I'm sure in many cases, these parents are busy calculating the hours and days, just to make damn sure.
I'm all for the notion of each parent playing an active role in the kids' lives, and encouraging the unique contribution that each parent can offer, but I really think it stinks that in order to do that, kids are shuffled from one home to the next.. one set of rules, values, parenting standards, etc., to the next.. essentially, one life to the next. Maybe I'm late in reading the latest issue of Parenting Today, but didn't we at least agree on the importance of consistency in the children's lives? When did that change? Does anyone consider what this does to the kids? Am I the only one who views this approach as 'the next best thing to chopping the kids in half'??
The parents wind up with 50/50 parenting time, and I'm sure in many cases, these parents are busy calculating the hours and days, just to make damn sure.
I'm all for the notion of each parent playing an active role in the kids' lives, and encouraging the unique contribution that each parent can offer, but I really think it stinks that in order to do that, kids are shuffled from one home to the next.. one set of rules, values, parenting standards, etc., to the next.. essentially, one life to the next. Maybe I'm late in reading the latest issue of Parenting Today, but didn't we at least agree on the importance of consistency in the children's lives? When did that change? Does anyone consider what this does to the kids? Am I the only one who views this approach as 'the next best thing to chopping the kids in half'??
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