I have a collaborative lawyer and I'm thinking of firing him and hiring a more aggressive lawyer.
From the outset, I wanted a collaborative lawyer because I felt it was the best way to go. However when dealing with an ex who provides excuse after excuse, won't provide financial disclosure, won't finalize access - ie refuses to "give" access time in the summer (we have a temp order and had hoped a final agreement would have been in place before the summer)
In this kind of situation a collaborative lawyer becomes a 300/hr paperweight. Ex has a LAO lawyer so infinitely deep pockets to continue to dither.
Ex has cancelled two of my parenting weekends with my daughter and refuses make-up dates.
Ex went ape-hit on me when d15 told me that she was doing summer vacation in the area where my grandparents used to live and I gave her a list of places and things I used to do out there. She didn't like how d15 wanted to change her agenda based on a conversation with me.
My lawyers approach has been to bend the knee and ask me to acquiesce to the ex's requests and not make her mad.
Each time we talk he talks a big game. After our last mediation session was cancelled, he was to issue a letter for complete disclosure. He didn't until I contacted him last week about cancelling next week's session due to lack of disclosure.
Lawyer wants to proceed with this session without explanation, though it might be related to me chewing out his managing partner for his lack of diligence and questionable invoices. The firm ended up eating 10 hours of work based on that conversation.
From the outset, I wanted a collaborative lawyer because I felt it was the best way to go. However when dealing with an ex who provides excuse after excuse, won't provide financial disclosure, won't finalize access - ie refuses to "give" access time in the summer (we have a temp order and had hoped a final agreement would have been in place before the summer)
In this kind of situation a collaborative lawyer becomes a 300/hr paperweight. Ex has a LAO lawyer so infinitely deep pockets to continue to dither.
Ex has cancelled two of my parenting weekends with my daughter and refuses make-up dates.
Ex went ape-hit on me when d15 told me that she was doing summer vacation in the area where my grandparents used to live and I gave her a list of places and things I used to do out there. She didn't like how d15 wanted to change her agenda based on a conversation with me.
My lawyers approach has been to bend the knee and ask me to acquiesce to the ex's requests and not make her mad.
Each time we talk he talks a big game. After our last mediation session was cancelled, he was to issue a letter for complete disclosure. He didn't until I contacted him last week about cancelling next week's session due to lack of disclosure.
Lawyer wants to proceed with this session without explanation, though it might be related to me chewing out his managing partner for his lack of diligence and questionable invoices. The firm ended up eating 10 hours of work based on that conversation.
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