Hi everyone...
I'm new and hoping this forum might provide me with some help and that I can, in turn, provide it back to someone else in the future...I'm separated finally got a emotionally abusive and controlling spouse out of my life...fortunately, he's not bad with his children and he now spends 50% more time with them since I asked him to leave the home...I am primary caregiver...
I've been working 25 years fulltime...have always been a saver and good with money....my ex was and still is a nightmare with it....I bought and pretty much paid for almost our entire home...continued to work fulltime while raising two kids with little help from him all the while helping him run his business mostly from our home...he's self employed...he had nothing but debt when we married....and while I continued to support the family he built up his business from nothing to $500K yearly sales and $250K assets....
I have rrsps and pension and my lawyer says its better to try to settle with him out of court...he's trying to claim that he is going bankrupt (all of a sudden) which is a ploy and that he makes lots of money but has lots of liabilities but doesn't want to pay his lawyer to do a financial assessment (so I can honestly see whats happening).....now hes asking for $200K settlement..and wants to keep his business and all the assets...give me nothing...and Ive told my lawyer hes nuts...
she says come back with something to try to get rid of him so Im agreeing but that's it....otherwise, if he wants 1/3 of our home then I want 1/3 of his business...my lawyer is making me feel beholding to him.....he used me and my money throughout the marriage and is still trying now.....I know my lawyer is advising me partly partly to avoid paying high lawyers fees but he will have to also...can someone give me some advice.....can't I get him sent for Discovery???? He basically intimidated/coerced me throughtout the marriage in helping him build up his business....and he's also telling me that even if I have to move to pay him off, I'm not allowed to move more than 45 minutes away from where he's living....I can't believe that???is it true???
I'm new and hoping this forum might provide me with some help and that I can, in turn, provide it back to someone else in the future...I'm separated finally got a emotionally abusive and controlling spouse out of my life...fortunately, he's not bad with his children and he now spends 50% more time with them since I asked him to leave the home...I am primary caregiver...
I've been working 25 years fulltime...have always been a saver and good with money....my ex was and still is a nightmare with it....I bought and pretty much paid for almost our entire home...continued to work fulltime while raising two kids with little help from him all the while helping him run his business mostly from our home...he's self employed...he had nothing but debt when we married....and while I continued to support the family he built up his business from nothing to $500K yearly sales and $250K assets....
I have rrsps and pension and my lawyer says its better to try to settle with him out of court...he's trying to claim that he is going bankrupt (all of a sudden) which is a ploy and that he makes lots of money but has lots of liabilities but doesn't want to pay his lawyer to do a financial assessment (so I can honestly see whats happening).....now hes asking for $200K settlement..and wants to keep his business and all the assets...give me nothing...and Ive told my lawyer hes nuts...
she says come back with something to try to get rid of him so Im agreeing but that's it....otherwise, if he wants 1/3 of our home then I want 1/3 of his business...my lawyer is making me feel beholding to him.....he used me and my money throughout the marriage and is still trying now.....I know my lawyer is advising me partly partly to avoid paying high lawyers fees but he will have to also...can someone give me some advice.....can't I get him sent for Discovery???? He basically intimidated/coerced me throughtout the marriage in helping him build up his business....and he's also telling me that even if I have to move to pay him off, I'm not allowed to move more than 45 minutes away from where he's living....I can't believe that???is it true???
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