Sent an OTS to my ex's lawyer last week and don't know if or why I'm being played by her or her lawyer or both of them. I am self rep and she has been high conflict every step of the way over the last two years.
The OTS I sent is for joint custody, primary residence with her and a detailed parenting plan for young our son covering up to when he starts school.
I really don't expect her to accept the OTS, but it would be great if she does. If she doesn't, then it's the groundwork for amending my application and CYA for trial since judge said there will be costs awarded if this doesn't get settled.
Within hours of emailing the offer to her lawyer, ex suddenly texts me saying she has a "few questions" about the offer and would like to talk to me either before I pick up our toddler son or after I bring him back the next day.
NO WAY I was doing that, I know we're not supposed to discuss court stuff at exchanges in front of kid!!
I texted back (politely) asking her to send me her questions by email. Ex's response was all about how she's not good at expressing herself in writing (not true by the way) and that she would prefer for us to meet face to face to discuss things.
WTF?? She can't stand me and has accused me of domestic assault, child abuse and all kinds of other horrible things and now she wants a private meeting just the two of us?? How stupid does she think I am??
I can't trust her as far as I can throw her and just repeated my request that she email me her questions about OTS or even send me a text message.
It has been over a week now and I have heard NOTHING from her at all!
If she has questions about the OTS, shouldn't she ask her LAO lawyer? If she actually had asked me questions, I was planning to tell her to ask her free lawyer and was also prepared to suggest mediation to try and settle things.
I just don't know what she was trying to accomplish and am now a little scared of what she might be cooking up to try and screw me over one more time.
I had been attending exchanges recently (only allowed since April court date) but have gone back to letting my parents do pick ups and drop offs.
Should I suggest mediation or just carry on with my own plan of waiting a few weeks for a response and then amend my application before TMC??
Thought? Suggestions??
Thanks!
The OTS I sent is for joint custody, primary residence with her and a detailed parenting plan for young our son covering up to when he starts school.
I really don't expect her to accept the OTS, but it would be great if she does. If she doesn't, then it's the groundwork for amending my application and CYA for trial since judge said there will be costs awarded if this doesn't get settled.
Within hours of emailing the offer to her lawyer, ex suddenly texts me saying she has a "few questions" about the offer and would like to talk to me either before I pick up our toddler son or after I bring him back the next day.
NO WAY I was doing that, I know we're not supposed to discuss court stuff at exchanges in front of kid!!
I texted back (politely) asking her to send me her questions by email. Ex's response was all about how she's not good at expressing herself in writing (not true by the way) and that she would prefer for us to meet face to face to discuss things.
WTF?? She can't stand me and has accused me of domestic assault, child abuse and all kinds of other horrible things and now she wants a private meeting just the two of us?? How stupid does she think I am??
I can't trust her as far as I can throw her and just repeated my request that she email me her questions about OTS or even send me a text message.
It has been over a week now and I have heard NOTHING from her at all!
If she has questions about the OTS, shouldn't she ask her LAO lawyer? If she actually had asked me questions, I was planning to tell her to ask her free lawyer and was also prepared to suggest mediation to try and settle things.
I just don't know what she was trying to accomplish and am now a little scared of what she might be cooking up to try and screw me over one more time.
I had been attending exchanges recently (only allowed since April court date) but have gone back to letting my parents do pick ups and drop offs.
Should I suggest mediation or just carry on with my own plan of waiting a few weeks for a response and then amend my application before TMC??
Thought? Suggestions??
Thanks!
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