We all know that exes can make us crazy, we all know that we over-react to even minor instances of button-pushing. So what do other people do when you can feel your heart rate and blood pressure rising because of something the ex did or said, and you want to ratchet things down?
Case in point - I'm feeling steamed because of some choices my ex makes about what to do with D8 on his parenting days (50/50). It is absolutely clear in my mind that this is none of my business, and that as long as D8 is fed and sheltered and not neglected when she is with him (all of which is true), I have no say in what he chooses to do. So I'm not about to fly into a righteous fit of rage. The ex has even been fairly reasonable to deal with in the past little while, so it's not like there's some huge lurking issue at the moment. Nonetheless, all the anger and frustration comes flooding back, and I would really rather not feel angry and frustrated.
So what do other people do in these situations? Go to the gym and work up a sweat? Meditate? Repeat a self-help mantra? Paint pictures? Seek inspiration from random strangers on the internet?
Case in point - I'm feeling steamed because of some choices my ex makes about what to do with D8 on his parenting days (50/50). It is absolutely clear in my mind that this is none of my business, and that as long as D8 is fed and sheltered and not neglected when she is with him (all of which is true), I have no say in what he chooses to do. So I'm not about to fly into a righteous fit of rage. The ex has even been fairly reasonable to deal with in the past little while, so it's not like there's some huge lurking issue at the moment. Nonetheless, all the anger and frustration comes flooding back, and I would really rather not feel angry and frustrated.
So what do other people do in these situations? Go to the gym and work up a sweat? Meditate? Repeat a self-help mantra? Paint pictures? Seek inspiration from random strangers on the internet?
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