Dropped off Case Conf. Brief 9 days before c.c. court date to her lawyer and court house.
Day of court:
Judge walks in, we all stand, he looks at me and his first words are "How can you walk into my court room unprepared with no Case Con Brief submitted and waste my time here today?! I do not look lightly on those who are unprepared and expect me to know what this case is about. Can you briefly tell me what you are here for?"
I state that I did so. He asks opposing lawyer if she has it from me and she says yes. He states he did not get mine at all so it was not done. I offer him my copy and he states he wants HIS copy in his file.
I state the change in job and shift work, change in income, change in busing, and change in daycare. He meanwhile is looking at his watch, the ceiling, his cuffs,... when I am finished he says "Is that it?".
I had months previously submitted page after page of facts supporting all of my submissions but he was not interested in looking at them.
I say yes. Her lawyer stands up and says, they do not want any changes to parenting plan and any changes I have stated to not affect the children.
He looks at me and asks if I have anything else. I state that all activities after school are paid for by me and done through me only. That the children are being left for 14 hour days with various child care providers while in her care instead of giving me right of refusal as stated in our p.p. ect..
He again reminds me that I am unprepared and again says "Is that it?"
He states he see's no material change and and orders me to pay their costs and to go to mediation.
Afterward I go to the front desk inquiring where the brief got to. They had no idea but did already know how badly court went and felt bad for me.
They went to the judges chambers and brought out the large file,, in it was my brief I had handed in 9 days prior, the judge just did not see it.
WOW!!!! I was guilty before he even came out of his chambers only to find the file was in there all along.
I am nothing more than disappointed, angry and exhausted fighting this system.
Day of court:
Judge walks in, we all stand, he looks at me and his first words are "How can you walk into my court room unprepared with no Case Con Brief submitted and waste my time here today?! I do not look lightly on those who are unprepared and expect me to know what this case is about. Can you briefly tell me what you are here for?"
I state that I did so. He asks opposing lawyer if she has it from me and she says yes. He states he did not get mine at all so it was not done. I offer him my copy and he states he wants HIS copy in his file.
I state the change in job and shift work, change in income, change in busing, and change in daycare. He meanwhile is looking at his watch, the ceiling, his cuffs,... when I am finished he says "Is that it?".
I had months previously submitted page after page of facts supporting all of my submissions but he was not interested in looking at them.
I say yes. Her lawyer stands up and says, they do not want any changes to parenting plan and any changes I have stated to not affect the children.
He looks at me and asks if I have anything else. I state that all activities after school are paid for by me and done through me only. That the children are being left for 14 hour days with various child care providers while in her care instead of giving me right of refusal as stated in our p.p. ect..
He again reminds me that I am unprepared and again says "Is that it?"
He states he see's no material change and and orders me to pay their costs and to go to mediation.
Afterward I go to the front desk inquiring where the brief got to. They had no idea but did already know how badly court went and felt bad for me.
They went to the judges chambers and brought out the large file,, in it was my brief I had handed in 9 days prior, the judge just did not see it.
WOW!!!! I was guilty before he even came out of his chambers only to find the file was in there all along.
I am nothing more than disappointed, angry and exhausted fighting this system.
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