I never thought I'd fall in to the 4% but here I am .. headed to trial. I tried everything in my power to settle at 50/50, shared custody but my ex simply wants sole or nothing.
Every ounce of access I've fought for...and fought hard. EOW and every Wednesday wasn't consented to. It was ordered. If ex had it her way it would be supervised 1-3 hours/week. (Actually she was forced to give that too).
The past is the past. The present and future is what matters. Whatever her issue is, whether it be moving to QC, wanting a free ride, etc .. she needs to focus on what we can do now and moving on. I think that's a fair statement.
Most hear my threads and assume that I seek out and have dialogue over my ex's negative traits in court. Not the case my friends. In court I say over and over that I' will always respect and encourage her role in D4's life.
I can assure you that her actions will be spoken about here. If this is bothersome to some than I apologize well in advance. In my reality this is the best place to discuss and make sense of them. Like I said in my very fist posts .. if I were actually abusive than this may have been a tad easier to take in .. at least I'd know why.
So here we have it.
1. D4 get's no J/K this coming Sept (Some here call that a "win" for ex. I call it a "lose" for D4)! But good for ex for needing more bonding time (she robbed nearly a year of mine).
2. OCL is coming for round 2.
I'm actually kind of excited for this. I may have a predisposition to PTSD symptoms from the last one .. but it's an update. In no way should it be going over all of the past false allegations.
The endorsement stipulates that D4 has embarked on a new schedule and much more time with her father and this was the reason for the update.
GREAT!! D4's doing very well here. Tons of love, affection, bonds and comfort. I really don't see how anything could go awry. Yes OP will work relentlessly to poison her just as they did the last time with untested, manufactured rubbish.
But won't that work against them? With me looking to the present and future and OP not being able to let go of the past?
As an example:
D.L.W Vs. J.J.M.W (2005)
I have done quite a bit of research on status quo and although I do understand that sometimes even forced status quo (unilateral removal, false allegations) will be maintained to the abducting parent in the best interests of the child, many cases such as the above are surfacing.
Judges are catching on and they don't like it. And rightly so. Examples are being made in family law as we see time and time again on this forum with caselaw and stories from some of our top poster's.
My ex can live in the past slinging mud all day if she likes...
But, I'm here for the present and the future for D4.
I think that's more important and definitely in her best interests!
Come trial I will have studied my case thoroughly, will be well-prepared emotionally and mentally .. and I will fight to have 50/50 shared custody .. of which D4 rightly deserves, alternative sole.
Every ounce of access I've fought for...and fought hard. EOW and every Wednesday wasn't consented to. It was ordered. If ex had it her way it would be supervised 1-3 hours/week. (Actually she was forced to give that too).
The past is the past. The present and future is what matters. Whatever her issue is, whether it be moving to QC, wanting a free ride, etc .. she needs to focus on what we can do now and moving on. I think that's a fair statement.
Most hear my threads and assume that I seek out and have dialogue over my ex's negative traits in court. Not the case my friends. In court I say over and over that I' will always respect and encourage her role in D4's life.
I can assure you that her actions will be spoken about here. If this is bothersome to some than I apologize well in advance. In my reality this is the best place to discuss and make sense of them. Like I said in my very fist posts .. if I were actually abusive than this may have been a tad easier to take in .. at least I'd know why.
So here we have it.
1. D4 get's no J/K this coming Sept (Some here call that a "win" for ex. I call it a "lose" for D4)! But good for ex for needing more bonding time (she robbed nearly a year of mine).
2. OCL is coming for round 2.
I'm actually kind of excited for this. I may have a predisposition to PTSD symptoms from the last one .. but it's an update. In no way should it be going over all of the past false allegations.
The endorsement stipulates that D4 has embarked on a new schedule and much more time with her father and this was the reason for the update.
GREAT!! D4's doing very well here. Tons of love, affection, bonds and comfort. I really don't see how anything could go awry. Yes OP will work relentlessly to poison her just as they did the last time with untested, manufactured rubbish.
But won't that work against them? With me looking to the present and future and OP not being able to let go of the past?
As an example:
D.L.W Vs. J.J.M.W (2005)
...the court found that they were suffering irreparable harm living in the care of their environment that she provided. She was distrustful to everyone, did not encourage contact with her father, believed that children should be exposed to as little outside influence as possible, had no extended family, could not let go of past issues.
A change in status quo was warranted in order to protect their long-term best interests.
A change in status quo was warranted in order to protect their long-term best interests.
Judges are catching on and they don't like it. And rightly so. Examples are being made in family law as we see time and time again on this forum with caselaw and stories from some of our top poster's.
My ex can live in the past slinging mud all day if she likes...
But, I'm here for the present and the future for D4.
I think that's more important and definitely in her best interests!
Come trial I will have studied my case thoroughly, will be well-prepared emotionally and mentally .. and I will fight to have 50/50 shared custody .. of which D4 rightly deserves, alternative sole.
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