Usually, I have a problem with spousal support, except in cases where it is warranted. I have heard of women that just basically sit around and collect the support and that's it. they make no effort to get off their butts and make their life better for themselves. There are jobs out there and anyone with any incentive and motivation will be able to secure one. ( In my mind anyways) Here's the deal....At one point I worked in the banking industry probably for 15 years ( I would be retiring from that this year had I stayed with it) but left that to work with the Family Business. I also had a Nursing Degree. Let my license renewal lapse about 8 years ago ( wouldn't be needing that!!!!) So have worked in the FB for 26 years. My lawyer is advising me to stay with the FB until business matters are settled and payment in hand and spousal support arranged. I will possibly be relocating to an area where I am not known. I am 50 years young. My ex is saying that he will pay me my regular cheque from the FB which I no longer have an interest in past V date, while I look for another job. Then he will pay me the difference between the two to equal what I make now. We had been married 26 years. I contributed immensely to this business. I have told him I do not want support from him forever. I want to move forward but I do want the support until I have myself established. My kids are grown and on their own.
Child support is not an issue. Between the two of us we have drafted an agreement which both lawyers are looking over. My lawyer has suggested support till 2010. Then the option for review by either party. There would also be a provision for review by either party should there be a material change in circumstances. The review date would remain whether a material change with either party had happened or not. I drive 550 km per week to go to work to manage the office for my ex and his woman. It costs me approx 300$ per month in fuel for my vehicle to go to work and back. Not to mention what the wear and tear is on my vehicle. He still has the business. He still works in the job he knows and loves. He makes a fine living.
Am I being unreasonable asking for a few years of support? I would love to hear your comments! I would welcome input from both mens and womans perspectives. (Sorry I was sooooo long winded)
Child support is not an issue. Between the two of us we have drafted an agreement which both lawyers are looking over. My lawyer has suggested support till 2010. Then the option for review by either party. There would also be a provision for review by either party should there be a material change in circumstances. The review date would remain whether a material change with either party had happened or not. I drive 550 km per week to go to work to manage the office for my ex and his woman. It costs me approx 300$ per month in fuel for my vehicle to go to work and back. Not to mention what the wear and tear is on my vehicle. He still has the business. He still works in the job he knows and loves. He makes a fine living.
Am I being unreasonable asking for a few years of support? I would love to hear your comments! I would welcome input from both mens and womans perspectives. (Sorry I was sooooo long winded)
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