...an unreasonable person could not get any more unreasonable.
I brought up some concerns regarding the health of two of my three children with respect to XXXXXX and informed my EX that I would be contacting our family Dr to make an appointment. Here is a redacted quote from my email:
I'm going to be calling Dr. XXXXXX office to make appointments for XXXXXX and XXXXXX. I would like for us to meet with him and see what he suggests as an action plan to address XXXXXX's XXXXXX and XXXXXX's XXXXXX.
My EX asked that I try to make the appointment for a Wednesday morning as she is off at that time OR for another weekday after 4:00 PM. Here is a redacted quote from her email:
I ask that you make the appointment on a Wednesday morning. Should that not be possible I will attend the made appointment, please let me know of the date and time.
I called the Dr's office to request an appointment and was told the earliest was next Monday morning. I accepted the date and time. Monday @ 10:30 AM.
I emailed my EX the appointment information.
I received a call from the receptionist at the Dr's office a short time later informing me that my EX had called to change the appointment to a Wednesday. I didn't want to assume tomorrow (Wednesday) wasn't now an option so I asked if the date/time my EX was requesting was before the already existing appointment I had just made. Upon being informed that it wasn't, I asked that the appointment remain on the Monday. The receptionist specifically mentioned that she was being put in a difficult situation.
I sent my EX an email requesting that she not undermine my parenting rights to seek medical services for my children and that she refrain from creating unnecessary conflict.
My EX replied with an email claiming that past practice has seen her as the one making all appointments. [This is not true and I have proof. There have been appointments made by her and appointments made by me. She has attended appointments by herself with the children, I have attended appointments by myself with the children, and we have attended appointments together with the children.]
Anyway, my EX informed me in the email that she made an appointment for the children for the Tuesday immediately following the already existing Monday appointment. The time? 3:30 PM
So now the same two children have appointments for Monday at 10:30 AM and for Tuesday at 3:30 PM.
How on earth is one expected to deal with such a controlling and unreasonable person who continually makes her interests a priority over the children's best interests?
NOTE:
Issue before the court are:
- Child Custody and Access
- Child Support
- Child Support Arrears
Both parties were equal caregivers until my EX unilaterally decided to remove the children from their home based on false allegations of domestic abuse and child abuse (claiming they were a witness to domestic violence). CAS investigated and left a message on my phone (exactly 1 month to the day after she left) stating that "this was not a matter that CAS needed to be involved in."
EX has limited the children's right to access to their father from Day 1.
I can demonstrate a complete unwillingness to negotiate or compromise on EX's part. I have examples of her denying the 50/50 shared residency I have been asking for since day 1. I have evidence to show her lying and misleading the court in sworn affidavits and examples of her lawyer misleading the court and attempting to manipulate a Judge's endorsement.
AND THERE"S MORE!
Anyway, enough is enough! I do not believe my EX nor her lawyer are acting in the best interests of my children and I would like it to stop but I am not sure how to go about it without jeopardizing any future decisions the court will most likely have to make.
A Trial Conference is set for September and a Trial is set for December.
Please, any help or advice would be greatly appreciated!
I can't imagine how any Judge would find her unreasonableness acceptable and in the best interests of anyone but her, but there are so many Family Court horror stories out there that it's frankly quite terrifying.
THANK YOU!
I brought up some concerns regarding the health of two of my three children with respect to XXXXXX and informed my EX that I would be contacting our family Dr to make an appointment. Here is a redacted quote from my email:
I'm going to be calling Dr. XXXXXX office to make appointments for XXXXXX and XXXXXX. I would like for us to meet with him and see what he suggests as an action plan to address XXXXXX's XXXXXX and XXXXXX's XXXXXX.
My EX asked that I try to make the appointment for a Wednesday morning as she is off at that time OR for another weekday after 4:00 PM. Here is a redacted quote from her email:
I ask that you make the appointment on a Wednesday morning. Should that not be possible I will attend the made appointment, please let me know of the date and time.
I called the Dr's office to request an appointment and was told the earliest was next Monday morning. I accepted the date and time. Monday @ 10:30 AM.
I emailed my EX the appointment information.
I received a call from the receptionist at the Dr's office a short time later informing me that my EX had called to change the appointment to a Wednesday. I didn't want to assume tomorrow (Wednesday) wasn't now an option so I asked if the date/time my EX was requesting was before the already existing appointment I had just made. Upon being informed that it wasn't, I asked that the appointment remain on the Monday. The receptionist specifically mentioned that she was being put in a difficult situation.
I sent my EX an email requesting that she not undermine my parenting rights to seek medical services for my children and that she refrain from creating unnecessary conflict.
My EX replied with an email claiming that past practice has seen her as the one making all appointments. [This is not true and I have proof. There have been appointments made by her and appointments made by me. She has attended appointments by herself with the children, I have attended appointments by myself with the children, and we have attended appointments together with the children.]
Anyway, my EX informed me in the email that she made an appointment for the children for the Tuesday immediately following the already existing Monday appointment. The time? 3:30 PM
So now the same two children have appointments for Monday at 10:30 AM and for Tuesday at 3:30 PM.
How on earth is one expected to deal with such a controlling and unreasonable person who continually makes her interests a priority over the children's best interests?
NOTE:
Issue before the court are:
- Child Custody and Access
- Child Support
- Child Support Arrears
Both parties were equal caregivers until my EX unilaterally decided to remove the children from their home based on false allegations of domestic abuse and child abuse (claiming they were a witness to domestic violence). CAS investigated and left a message on my phone (exactly 1 month to the day after she left) stating that "this was not a matter that CAS needed to be involved in."
EX has limited the children's right to access to their father from Day 1.
I can demonstrate a complete unwillingness to negotiate or compromise on EX's part. I have examples of her denying the 50/50 shared residency I have been asking for since day 1. I have evidence to show her lying and misleading the court in sworn affidavits and examples of her lawyer misleading the court and attempting to manipulate a Judge's endorsement.
AND THERE"S MORE!
Anyway, enough is enough! I do not believe my EX nor her lawyer are acting in the best interests of my children and I would like it to stop but I am not sure how to go about it without jeopardizing any future decisions the court will most likely have to make.
A Trial Conference is set for September and a Trial is set for December.
Please, any help or advice would be greatly appreciated!
I can't imagine how any Judge would find her unreasonableness acceptable and in the best interests of anyone but her, but there are so many Family Court horror stories out there that it's frankly quite terrifying.
THANK YOU!
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