I am the one who "did" the divorce, after 15 years of marriage/no kids, so why do I feel so devastated and sad and scared? Why do i feel like I've made the biggest mistake ever and I will never recover from it? I just feel sick. The thought of my husband with someone else, the thought of someone else in "my" house (it's now not mine any more, I just signed it away), the thought of not having my best friend around any more, absolutely devastates me. There were reasons I wanted a divorce, but why can't I think of them right now?
Does anyone else go through this, or mostly are people just happy to be free? I feel no "victory" at all, I feel no relief, I feel no happiness... Is this normal?
I have been going to counselling/therapy for years, off and on. My current counsellor echos what most of the other ones have said: just get on with it and get over it. I've tried to talk to certain family members about how bad I feel about all this, and they ALL seem to think that this is the best thing that ever happened to me, getting a divorce.
Anyway, sorry for the whine.. but does anyone else go through this kind of grief?
Does anyone else go through this, or mostly are people just happy to be free? I feel no "victory" at all, I feel no relief, I feel no happiness... Is this normal?
I have been going to counselling/therapy for years, off and on. My current counsellor echos what most of the other ones have said: just get on with it and get over it. I've tried to talk to certain family members about how bad I feel about all this, and they ALL seem to think that this is the best thing that ever happened to me, getting a divorce.
Anyway, sorry for the whine.. but does anyone else go through this kind of grief?
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