My ex and I have been separated for 4 months now, sharing our 3 year old about 50/50. I thought by now she would be more used to it. But every time she has to go to her dad's she throws a fit. Every single day she asks me if I am picking her up from daycare. When the answer is yes, she is really happy, but when it is no, she starts sobbing. She says things like "I don't like daddy, I don't love him". And Daddy doesn't love me.
I know it's normal for her to be more attached to me, I did 90% of her care until the split. He tells me he is constantly telling her how much he loves her, how it's ok to miss mommy and love her. I am trying my best to help her, talking about how we both love her, it's ok to love both of us, how it's not her fault etc. After 3 months of this she is still having the same reaction.
She saw fighting, heard it, and I know she remembers all of it. I'm wondering how concerned I need to be. We are on the list for a child counselling session, but it's not until the end of January. I don't want my child to hate going to her dad's, how much of this is caused by her past? I've talked to my counsellor, he thinks it's a normal. But both my family and her daycare staff have noticed that her behavious is horrible after she comes home from being with him. After a couple days with me she is almost angelic.
Am I making a mountain out of a molehill? What would you suggest??
I know it's normal for her to be more attached to me, I did 90% of her care until the split. He tells me he is constantly telling her how much he loves her, how it's ok to miss mommy and love her. I am trying my best to help her, talking about how we both love her, it's ok to love both of us, how it's not her fault etc. After 3 months of this she is still having the same reaction.
She saw fighting, heard it, and I know she remembers all of it. I'm wondering how concerned I need to be. We are on the list for a child counselling session, but it's not until the end of January. I don't want my child to hate going to her dad's, how much of this is caused by her past? I've talked to my counsellor, he thinks it's a normal. But both my family and her daycare staff have noticed that her behavious is horrible after she comes home from being with him. After a couple days with me she is almost angelic.
Am I making a mountain out of a molehill? What would you suggest??
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