This is my vent for the day.
My ex thinks that he can have his cake and eat it too and since I have no desire to spend all of my equity going to court and fighting him I am agreeing to things that I should not be agreeing to just to get this over and done with.
I am agreeing to not take an equalization of his pension in exchange for spousal support waiver. Nope he says, not waiving that right. So, when I say, well I guess I'll take the equalization then, he says that he won't sign the agreement. Seriously, I thought we were negotiating!!! So now I'm not taking an equalization and he's not waiving his right to seek spousal support?
He played the same game with the parenting plan and child support so now, we have a parenting plan which I dearly hopes he lives up to for the kids and if he doesn't then I will at some point have to take him to court.
I have moved out of the house and am renting while my equity is tied up in a house I no longer live in because he refused to accept either of the two offerers we received.
I get to deal with the emotional distress of our kids who were used to me parenting them most of the time and him being absent much of the time.
Where is the equality, negotiation and fairness? Why must I be the one to give all the time? Somedays I would really like to tell him what I really think of him and his behaviour. AND, I wish I had oodles of cash to take him to court RIGHT NOW.
Thanks - I feel better now. I'll feel even better after spin class later
My ex thinks that he can have his cake and eat it too and since I have no desire to spend all of my equity going to court and fighting him I am agreeing to things that I should not be agreeing to just to get this over and done with.
I am agreeing to not take an equalization of his pension in exchange for spousal support waiver. Nope he says, not waiving that right. So, when I say, well I guess I'll take the equalization then, he says that he won't sign the agreement. Seriously, I thought we were negotiating!!! So now I'm not taking an equalization and he's not waiving his right to seek spousal support?
He played the same game with the parenting plan and child support so now, we have a parenting plan which I dearly hopes he lives up to for the kids and if he doesn't then I will at some point have to take him to court.
I have moved out of the house and am renting while my equity is tied up in a house I no longer live in because he refused to accept either of the two offerers we received.
I get to deal with the emotional distress of our kids who were used to me parenting them most of the time and him being absent much of the time.
Where is the equality, negotiation and fairness? Why must I be the one to give all the time? Somedays I would really like to tell him what I really think of him and his behaviour. AND, I wish I had oodles of cash to take him to court RIGHT NOW.
Thanks - I feel better now. I'll feel even better after spin class later
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