Hey All,
New member to OD, looking for advice, support and information like many others here and always willing to the lend the same in return if ever I can
A bit of background on my marital/custodial situation is as follows;
I was shmucked by my own trust in my X, and if I had to do over again, I'd have taken my daughter with us when we moved because my good intentions in making sure she was cared for by family and not paid sitters have been rewarded with nothing but dragged out drama and heartache...
When I returned to the city with training in a new area of work to support myself and the children my X refused to reinstate residence, and served me with paperwork seeking Sole Custody of our daughter.
The papers he sent were for a "Motion on Consent" and I refused to 'consent' to any of it. Because we were still legally married (as we are currently) he threatened that if I didn't sign the papers he would tie the Custody issue into the divorce and have the matter taken to Superior Court to be dealt with.
Other threats my X made at this time, included; but not limited to:
I was broke (school was not cheap) and very scared. I managed to get him to stall the court case by stating I would submit to any terms he deemed reasonable to keep my little family (me and the kids) together.
Thus for an entire year I was been fighting the good fight (outside of court) and accepting anything my X was willing to give me in access and time, in the hopes that my X might realize how important my son, myself and my family is to our daughter and that we (the parents) might come to some kind of split living arrangement where our daughter could be shared on a 50/50 basis if he was no longer willing to sign over full residence and primary care completely as he so promised...
Once his documents reached their 365 day expiry date I began requesting more time with our daughter, all of which was refused, and attempted several times to make a set visitation schedule for me and my girl to have more time together, working towards a court appointed 50/50 split.
Constant refusal, absconding with our child, removing the child from locations wherein I was to pick her up, and disappearing with her several times was what followed my many requests.
My X has since February 23, 2014 refused allparental, sibling and familial access to our daughter, and has called the police on me several times in an attempt to have me charged with things like:
charges which were never laid against me because they were all false claims and accusations made in acts of vengeance and anger.
False allegations of the most disgusting kind have also been made to CAS as my X has attempted to have my son removed from my care, and prove me unfit to have unsupervised access to our daughter.
An investigation in to all allegations was implemented and completed, and I am cleared of all claims which were set against me.
I'm currently going through the Criminal Court system to fight a Peace Bond which my Xs new GF has set against me because (and I'm assuming here; but police who I have spoken to agree with this assumption) he and his new GF have not been able to charge me in any criminal matter, despite their efforts, and they are desperate to prove me unfit/dangerous by any means they can muster.
It should be noted that I have never been on the Jerry Springer show, I have never lived in trailer park (less the odd campsite vacation), I do not have a criminal record and the extent of my police involvement prior to these latest events have been road law related offenses like parking tickets, speeding, etc..
My case is an absurd and ridiculous one at best...
New member to OD, looking for advice, support and information like many others here and always willing to the lend the same in return if ever I can
A bit of background on my marital/custodial situation is as follows;
- My husband and I will have been separated for 8 years in June.
- When I left him and took the children with me and both were under my full time care for 4 years following the split.
- Our 1st Order for Joint Custody of our one biological child (girl 8yrs old) was made in 2009, and her primary residence was with me.
- Our 2nd Order was made at the same time as our separation agreement, in 2010, at which time residence of our daughter was signed over by myself, to my X because I was leaving the area for 2 years in order to upgrade my education.
- Residence was signed over 'On Consent' under the provision and verbal agreement that our daughters residence would be signed back to me in 2012 after I returned to the area with my son.
- It should also be noted that I am the Sole Custodian of my son from a previous relationship who is 13, and have been his sole guardian since it was Ordered by the court in 2002.
I was shmucked by my own trust in my X, and if I had to do over again, I'd have taken my daughter with us when we moved because my good intentions in making sure she was cared for by family and not paid sitters have been rewarded with nothing but dragged out drama and heartache...
When I returned to the city with training in a new area of work to support myself and the children my X refused to reinstate residence, and served me with paperwork seeking Sole Custody of our daughter.
The papers he sent were for a "Motion on Consent" and I refused to 'consent' to any of it. Because we were still legally married (as we are currently) he threatened that if I didn't sign the papers he would tie the Custody issue into the divorce and have the matter taken to Superior Court to be dealt with.
Other threats my X made at this time, included; but not limited to:
- he would withhold my daughter from me and not allow me to see her until it was ruled he must do so by a Court Order.
- he would drag his heals in court to make sure it was a year or more before I would ever see my child again.
- he would make reports to CAS in an effort to have my son taken from my care.
- he would apply for Custody of my boy and raise him as his own.
- he would not allow me access to my son (if he was awarded custody) until it be ordered by a Court of Law.
I was broke (school was not cheap) and very scared. I managed to get him to stall the court case by stating I would submit to any terms he deemed reasonable to keep my little family (me and the kids) together.
Thus for an entire year I was been fighting the good fight (outside of court) and accepting anything my X was willing to give me in access and time, in the hopes that my X might realize how important my son, myself and my family is to our daughter and that we (the parents) might come to some kind of split living arrangement where our daughter could be shared on a 50/50 basis if he was no longer willing to sign over full residence and primary care completely as he so promised...
Once his documents reached their 365 day expiry date I began requesting more time with our daughter, all of which was refused, and attempted several times to make a set visitation schedule for me and my girl to have more time together, working towards a court appointed 50/50 split.
Constant refusal, absconding with our child, removing the child from locations wherein I was to pick her up, and disappearing with her several times was what followed my many requests.
My X has since February 23, 2014 refused allparental, sibling and familial access to our daughter, and has called the police on me several times in an attempt to have me charged with things like:
- trespassing
- harassment
- assault
- destruction of property
- who knows what else
charges which were never laid against me because they were all false claims and accusations made in acts of vengeance and anger.
False allegations of the most disgusting kind have also been made to CAS as my X has attempted to have my son removed from my care, and prove me unfit to have unsupervised access to our daughter.
An investigation in to all allegations was implemented and completed, and I am cleared of all claims which were set against me.
I'm currently going through the Criminal Court system to fight a Peace Bond which my Xs new GF has set against me because (and I'm assuming here; but police who I have spoken to agree with this assumption) he and his new GF have not been able to charge me in any criminal matter, despite their efforts, and they are desperate to prove me unfit/dangerous by any means they can muster.
It should be noted that I have never been on the Jerry Springer show, I have never lived in trailer park (less the odd campsite vacation), I do not have a criminal record and the extent of my police involvement prior to these latest events have been road law related offenses like parking tickets, speeding, etc..
My case is an absurd and ridiculous one at best...
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