On April 5th, 2011 I received the court order stating that the ex-wife and I have joint decision making in all areas in regards to our two children aged 8 and 11. If we can not come to a mutual decision then we are to seek out alternate help until we can reach a decision. I figured this would now allow me some flow of information and also help communication between the ex-wife and I. Unfortunately it has not.
Communication has been better lately in regards to incoming events like school plays, hockey tournaments and such but I haven't even been informed in regards to doctor visits or other issues involving school office problems which would require equal disciplinary actions and discussions with the kids. I am hoping these issues continue to improve on their own without pushing to hard on my ex-wife. I have contacted the school directly to keep me better informed and I will be doing so with the dentist and doctor too.
The issue I do have is in regards to extracurricular activities for which will be up for disclosure in April of 2012 with a possible attempt at mutual settlement again. My ex-wife has always made a lot more money then me and with that in mind, she has signed them up for tons of activities without my approval where prior to this year we have always mutually agreed on the activities based on both our budgets. This includes putting my daughter into very costly horse back lessons piggy backed with multiple dance classes at the same time. My son has been in year round local league hockey along with baseball and private art classes. The bill for this stuff is going to be a lot more then previous years and I am scared that the fees associated with it even when factoring in the income difference is going to be more then I can handle.
My question is, if we are supposed to reach decisions jointly and she made all these decisions without even mentioning them to me then am I expected to pay for them as extraordinary expenses? My thought is not to screw her or my children out of money but to teach her that the court order is there for a reason and that she has to follow it.
Should I do with this now or wait until April when it comes up for discussion?
Communication has been better lately in regards to incoming events like school plays, hockey tournaments and such but I haven't even been informed in regards to doctor visits or other issues involving school office problems which would require equal disciplinary actions and discussions with the kids. I am hoping these issues continue to improve on their own without pushing to hard on my ex-wife. I have contacted the school directly to keep me better informed and I will be doing so with the dentist and doctor too.
The issue I do have is in regards to extracurricular activities for which will be up for disclosure in April of 2012 with a possible attempt at mutual settlement again. My ex-wife has always made a lot more money then me and with that in mind, she has signed them up for tons of activities without my approval where prior to this year we have always mutually agreed on the activities based on both our budgets. This includes putting my daughter into very costly horse back lessons piggy backed with multiple dance classes at the same time. My son has been in year round local league hockey along with baseball and private art classes. The bill for this stuff is going to be a lot more then previous years and I am scared that the fees associated with it even when factoring in the income difference is going to be more then I can handle.
My question is, if we are supposed to reach decisions jointly and she made all these decisions without even mentioning them to me then am I expected to pay for them as extraordinary expenses? My thought is not to screw her or my children out of money but to teach her that the court order is there for a reason and that she has to follow it.
Should I do with this now or wait until April when it comes up for discussion?
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