Wife: almost 60, receiving disability($800) due to severe depression, several suicide attempts within the last year, unable to work since 1984, on lots of meds
Me: 65+, income is Govt Pension and Old Age($1700), I work p/t in the winter($3K)
We: Married 34 years, no mortgage(home value is around $600K in Toronto)) and owe $10K on car, no dependents, I do 95% of everything to maintain the home and feed us.
Story:I'm basically burned out from living with a depressed, unmotivated, OCD spouse who has had treatments for her illness. Her last suicide attempt early this year left her with minor brain damage, blindness in one eye and arm injuries. She has been diagnosed with depression since 1985. I feel she is not motivated to help herself because I'm always there.
The Plan: I want to separate, sell this house and buy a small house in a distant city for around $200K.I have always talked about moving out of Toronto. Wife will be forced to rent or live with a brother or mother. She does not want to sell the house nor move out of city. I do not hate her or wish to cause any more distress. I'm just not happy and I feel I have been affected by my own depression due to circumstances. I had major cancer 7 years ago and at that time I thought my problems of dealing with this life was almost ended. I do not believe in divorce - it's a dirty word for me but I think, at this time there is no other solution.
Question: In how deep of a pile of poop am I? Any helpful advice for me/us?
Me: 65+, income is Govt Pension and Old Age($1700), I work p/t in the winter($3K)
We: Married 34 years, no mortgage(home value is around $600K in Toronto)) and owe $10K on car, no dependents, I do 95% of everything to maintain the home and feed us.
Story:I'm basically burned out from living with a depressed, unmotivated, OCD spouse who has had treatments for her illness. Her last suicide attempt early this year left her with minor brain damage, blindness in one eye and arm injuries. She has been diagnosed with depression since 1985. I feel she is not motivated to help herself because I'm always there.
The Plan: I want to separate, sell this house and buy a small house in a distant city for around $200K.I have always talked about moving out of Toronto. Wife will be forced to rent or live with a brother or mother. She does not want to sell the house nor move out of city. I do not hate her or wish to cause any more distress. I'm just not happy and I feel I have been affected by my own depression due to circumstances. I had major cancer 7 years ago and at that time I thought my problems of dealing with this life was almost ended. I do not believe in divorce - it's a dirty word for me but I think, at this time there is no other solution.
Question: In how deep of a pile of poop am I? Any helpful advice for me/us?
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