It's a long story.
D10 and D13 and I bave had ups and downs over the past year.
Last Septemeber I lost my temper at home and scared them. I was reacting to their mother but it doesn't matter. There was a break in our relationships. Mom accused me of abuse and CAS became involved.
By Februrary our daugters were coming home on every one of our days ut still sleeping at their moms. The plan we had all agreed to with Cas was to work back towards the overnights. There seem to be any number of roadblocks throwing up by Mom to keep from this happening. In the end, CAS fired a warning shot about going to CFSA court if it kept up.
She responded by filing for sole custody of our daughters in June.
After that, our daughters started reqiesting to be at their moms more and more. Both CAS and their counselor were suprised at this reversal on their part as our time together was retruning back to where it had been.
At the beginning of the school year our daughters were diagnosed as depressive and anxious respectively. September 21st was the last time D10 came home. D13 continued for a bit but always felt torn. She came home fore the last time two weeks ago.
CAS has issued a formal letter for Family Court recommending private family assessment or a clinicians assessment through the OCL, where there is no concern with our children being with me but stating that it is clear that mom did not 'buy into'the plan to return to the shared parenting we had had for seven years post divorce.
Mom continues to fight having any assessment done. Our Case Conference is November 17th.
Their counselor doesn't understand it, neither does our CAS worker. They both say that our daughters speak positively of our time together, that it appeared as things were going back to the way they always had been. CAS was going to close the file even. Now i a matter of weeks our daughters have taken and emotional nose dive and we rarely see them.
So that our daughters don't feel torn, I try to reassure them at every turn that it is ok that they are at their mom's. I don't want anything to add to their angst. But it's if they are suddenly gone. I have seen eafh of my daughters once on the past two weeks. My youngest for 45 minutes.
I know I have to trust in our relationships. I know I can. We've always been close, we ways had more time than most every parent because of my flex work hours. I know that not adding to them feeling torn is most important, but this is horrifically hard.
D10 and D13 and I bave had ups and downs over the past year.
Last Septemeber I lost my temper at home and scared them. I was reacting to their mother but it doesn't matter. There was a break in our relationships. Mom accused me of abuse and CAS became involved.
By Februrary our daugters were coming home on every one of our days ut still sleeping at their moms. The plan we had all agreed to with Cas was to work back towards the overnights. There seem to be any number of roadblocks throwing up by Mom to keep from this happening. In the end, CAS fired a warning shot about going to CFSA court if it kept up.
She responded by filing for sole custody of our daughters in June.
After that, our daughters started reqiesting to be at their moms more and more. Both CAS and their counselor were suprised at this reversal on their part as our time together was retruning back to where it had been.
At the beginning of the school year our daughters were diagnosed as depressive and anxious respectively. September 21st was the last time D10 came home. D13 continued for a bit but always felt torn. She came home fore the last time two weeks ago.
CAS has issued a formal letter for Family Court recommending private family assessment or a clinicians assessment through the OCL, where there is no concern with our children being with me but stating that it is clear that mom did not 'buy into'the plan to return to the shared parenting we had had for seven years post divorce.
Mom continues to fight having any assessment done. Our Case Conference is November 17th.
Their counselor doesn't understand it, neither does our CAS worker. They both say that our daughters speak positively of our time together, that it appeared as things were going back to the way they always had been. CAS was going to close the file even. Now i a matter of weeks our daughters have taken and emotional nose dive and we rarely see them.
So that our daughters don't feel torn, I try to reassure them at every turn that it is ok that they are at their mom's. I don't want anything to add to their angst. But it's if they are suddenly gone. I have seen eafh of my daughters once on the past two weeks. My youngest for 45 minutes.
I know I have to trust in our relationships. I know I can. We've always been close, we ways had more time than most every parent because of my flex work hours. I know that not adding to them feeling torn is most important, but this is horrifically hard.
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