Hi everyone. I have a question and I'd appreciate some opinions on the topic.
I have been separated for over 2 years. The two children live with my ex, but since she started work I have them about 40% of the time (maybe a little more). The actual number of days is a 50/50 split, but they sleep at my ex's on some of the days I have them.
Child support has always been based on the chart (which would be what I'd pay if I didn't have *any* access to my kids). Lately I've been considering whether this is fair or not. Seems to me that this is shared parenting, and that there should be at least *some* equalization of child support here.
Does anyone know how big a deal it is to apply for shared parenting, and get this changed? Anyone with experience out there doing this? If so, how did it end? Does the whole separation agreement get brought back out and is everything on the table again?
I do have a separation agreement, but it doesn't stipulate shared parenting. We have joint custody. The arrangement for seeing my kids this much has been ongoing for the last 9 months or so, and I can't see it changing anytime soon (which is good! I want to see my kids as much as humanly possible). I have spoken to my lawyer, and he seemed a little uneasy about the whole thing frankly.
Currently I don't actually buy many new cloths for my kids, neither do I pay for stuff like school trips, and book orders and such (as I'm the only one paying child support it didn't make sense to me to pay these things). I do however pay for everything when they're with me obviously.
I would be happy to pay for all the new school supplies, cloths, books, etc when they're with me if I was getting paid the offset amount. If I go ahead and bring this up, do you think I should
a) Wait until the current schedule has gone on for a year?
b) Start paying for things like cloths etc now so the courts have a record that I will do this if the child support changes?
Has anyone went through this before, or have any recommendations?
Thx
DadFirst
I have been separated for over 2 years. The two children live with my ex, but since she started work I have them about 40% of the time (maybe a little more). The actual number of days is a 50/50 split, but they sleep at my ex's on some of the days I have them.
Child support has always been based on the chart (which would be what I'd pay if I didn't have *any* access to my kids). Lately I've been considering whether this is fair or not. Seems to me that this is shared parenting, and that there should be at least *some* equalization of child support here.
Does anyone know how big a deal it is to apply for shared parenting, and get this changed? Anyone with experience out there doing this? If so, how did it end? Does the whole separation agreement get brought back out and is everything on the table again?
I do have a separation agreement, but it doesn't stipulate shared parenting. We have joint custody. The arrangement for seeing my kids this much has been ongoing for the last 9 months or so, and I can't see it changing anytime soon (which is good! I want to see my kids as much as humanly possible). I have spoken to my lawyer, and he seemed a little uneasy about the whole thing frankly.
Currently I don't actually buy many new cloths for my kids, neither do I pay for stuff like school trips, and book orders and such (as I'm the only one paying child support it didn't make sense to me to pay these things). I do however pay for everything when they're with me obviously.
I would be happy to pay for all the new school supplies, cloths, books, etc when they're with me if I was getting paid the offset amount. If I go ahead and bring this up, do you think I should
a) Wait until the current schedule has gone on for a year?
b) Start paying for things like cloths etc now so the courts have a record that I will do this if the child support changes?
Has anyone went through this before, or have any recommendations?
Thx
DadFirst
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