Hello All!
I had been living common law with my ex for about 2 years when I left with our infant in May. He agreed with me and has since terminated our leased apartment and moved out. My counselor called aCAS on my ex due to some of the circumstances surrounding the reason I left. CAS confirmed my concerns, discussed the issue with my ex and closed the file.
We are scheduled for mediation but I have a few questions.
I have never denied my ex visitation, but I have had the visits supervised by either myself or my ex's parents, who share my concerns although are not concerned to the same degree I am. I was actually considering backing off with the supervision until something happened again last week. When I try to discuss my concerns with my ex he just blows off what I say.
I would like to have joint custody with my ex but my gut is telling me to go for sole custody. I would still consult with him regarding major decisions. We do argue a lot about parenting. I prefer to discuss things in person or by phone, but he is requesting all communication occur by email or text so that he has a record in case we ever go to court. I have gone over and beyond trying to keep my ex involved despite the supervision because I know my son needs his dad around.
Do I currently have sole custody since I left with the baby and my ex consented? Will having his visits supervised come back and bite me if we ever go to court? Given what I have written, do I have a shot at sole custody? I would be willing to reconsider joint down the line if circumstances change. If I had to, would it be easy to go from joint to sole in case things didn't work out?
Thanks so much!
I had been living common law with my ex for about 2 years when I left with our infant in May. He agreed with me and has since terminated our leased apartment and moved out. My counselor called aCAS on my ex due to some of the circumstances surrounding the reason I left. CAS confirmed my concerns, discussed the issue with my ex and closed the file.
We are scheduled for mediation but I have a few questions.
I have never denied my ex visitation, but I have had the visits supervised by either myself or my ex's parents, who share my concerns although are not concerned to the same degree I am. I was actually considering backing off with the supervision until something happened again last week. When I try to discuss my concerns with my ex he just blows off what I say.
I would like to have joint custody with my ex but my gut is telling me to go for sole custody. I would still consult with him regarding major decisions. We do argue a lot about parenting. I prefer to discuss things in person or by phone, but he is requesting all communication occur by email or text so that he has a record in case we ever go to court. I have gone over and beyond trying to keep my ex involved despite the supervision because I know my son needs his dad around.
Do I currently have sole custody since I left with the baby and my ex consented? Will having his visits supervised come back and bite me if we ever go to court? Given what I have written, do I have a shot at sole custody? I would be willing to reconsider joint down the line if circumstances change. If I had to, would it be easy to go from joint to sole in case things didn't work out?
Thanks so much!
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