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I would like some comments on what the police would do in a situation when they are called to retrieve an 11 yo over an access dispute.
I have a simple separation agreement that just says we have equal access - no specific times, but we've had the same schedule for 7 years.
This past weekend my ex refused my access to my 11yo son. I have equal access to my 3 kids, he is the youngest. The other two were at my house. I stated clearly that it was not reasonable and I don't agree, but I felt there was nothing to do that would not up set my son as he was already at her house. I simply said that I would have him the next weekend on her time to even things up.
She took time off work and refused my access because he had a cold with fever (always under 104 ear temp, mostly in the 102s). She over did it in my opinion and took him to hospital for all sorts of testing (11 hours!). In the end, nothing was found out of ordinary and he is now back in school this Monday. He was sick for over a week though. I work at home and took care of him on my days - he was fine for the most part and said so. I took him to the doctor and the doctor said to just monitor.
She said the doctor at the hospital said I could not have him and only she could care for him because she is an RN (this I don't believe knowing her mind - she said this before she even went to the hospital).
Anyway - she now sent an email to the kids school and me stating all this and that my son does not want to stay with me next weekend and that she will call the police to get him if I refuse her access. Why she sent an email to the school I don't know, but she has become increasingly hostile toward me even though we've been separated for 7 years and have always had 50/50. She is making less sense over time and her messages to me are intentionally cruel (attempts anyway) and slightly delusional.
My question is - what would the police do if she called them while he is with me? What if he said he would rather be at her house but does not mind staying with me?
Alienation and stress on him are my main concerns - I can tell he knows we are not getting along and that it is effecting him. She is stirring up tension for no valid reason. I just want to be left alone and allowed to parent equally.
She already called the police to my house once saying I would not let him call her - not true and she could have called him if she thought that. I simply didn't tell him to call her when she asked me to after they had just talked on the phone - and he has his own cell she can call/text anytime! The police talked to us both and left - they said almost nothing, but I felt they thought it was a waste of their time. My older two were not impressed and my younger one slept though it.
Just wondering how the police handle these situations.
I would like some comments on what the police would do in a situation when they are called to retrieve an 11 yo over an access dispute.
I have a simple separation agreement that just says we have equal access - no specific times, but we've had the same schedule for 7 years.
This past weekend my ex refused my access to my 11yo son. I have equal access to my 3 kids, he is the youngest. The other two were at my house. I stated clearly that it was not reasonable and I don't agree, but I felt there was nothing to do that would not up set my son as he was already at her house. I simply said that I would have him the next weekend on her time to even things up.
She took time off work and refused my access because he had a cold with fever (always under 104 ear temp, mostly in the 102s). She over did it in my opinion and took him to hospital for all sorts of testing (11 hours!). In the end, nothing was found out of ordinary and he is now back in school this Monday. He was sick for over a week though. I work at home and took care of him on my days - he was fine for the most part and said so. I took him to the doctor and the doctor said to just monitor.
She said the doctor at the hospital said I could not have him and only she could care for him because she is an RN (this I don't believe knowing her mind - she said this before she even went to the hospital).
Anyway - she now sent an email to the kids school and me stating all this and that my son does not want to stay with me next weekend and that she will call the police to get him if I refuse her access. Why she sent an email to the school I don't know, but she has become increasingly hostile toward me even though we've been separated for 7 years and have always had 50/50. She is making less sense over time and her messages to me are intentionally cruel (attempts anyway) and slightly delusional.
My question is - what would the police do if she called them while he is with me? What if he said he would rather be at her house but does not mind staying with me?
Alienation and stress on him are my main concerns - I can tell he knows we are not getting along and that it is effecting him. She is stirring up tension for no valid reason. I just want to be left alone and allowed to parent equally.
She already called the police to my house once saying I would not let him call her - not true and she could have called him if she thought that. I simply didn't tell him to call her when she asked me to after they had just talked on the phone - and he has his own cell she can call/text anytime! The police talked to us both and left - they said almost nothing, but I felt they thought it was a waste of their time. My older two were not impressed and my younger one slept though it.
Just wondering how the police handle these situations.
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