Hi,
To me, it seems like I am in a spider web and I don't know if it is even possible, or viable, to get out. I suppose a point form summary would be easiest?
-2 months prior to getting married wife was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes
-truthfully, I knew nothing about managing it so I assumed she was taking care of it as she kept it to herself
-wife was working a full time job
-7.5 years ago we got married
-soon after marriage she had a nervous breakdown at work and had to find another job
-it was after this she told me she suffered from depression
-she found a part time job, but started to get sick from diabetes complications. I found out she wasn't managing it at all, but just ignoring it completely
-she had to quit that job because of sickness
-she eventually found another job but lasted only 2 weeks. She was getting sicker and the complications were getting worse
-after quitting this job she had another breakdown and wouldn't deal with anything, even her creditors who were threatening to come after her. I dealt with them on her behalf and paid off the debt and renegotiated the terms of the loans
-she has been on permanent disability for the past 3 years
-she still won't manage her diabetes despite suffering organ complications
-she is getting sicker, can barely walk some days. She's been to the ICU 8 times and still won't change her behavior
-we've never consummated the marriage as it wasn't until after being married she told me she had vaginal issues and couldn't have intercourse
-from day 1 I have paid all the bills. She pays her own credit cards and buys her own clothes, but that's it
-my insurance through work pays for all her pain medication, which if I had to pay for on my own would bankrupt me in 1 month
I am tired of living with a person that doesn't want to help them self and is not only sabotaging her future but mine/ours. I don't see a future for us anymore. Given her situation, is there actually any way that I could separate and not get completely screwed? Her mom lives 1 minute away and I know for a fact she would just move back home. I am now $60k in debt, we don't own anything of value, would it makes sense to claim bankruptcy before proceeding with a divorce? I feel overwhelmed, and likely need a reality check. Any help/insight would be tremendously appreciated.
Thanks
To me, it seems like I am in a spider web and I don't know if it is even possible, or viable, to get out. I suppose a point form summary would be easiest?
-2 months prior to getting married wife was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes
-truthfully, I knew nothing about managing it so I assumed she was taking care of it as she kept it to herself
-wife was working a full time job
-7.5 years ago we got married
-soon after marriage she had a nervous breakdown at work and had to find another job
-it was after this she told me she suffered from depression
-she found a part time job, but started to get sick from diabetes complications. I found out she wasn't managing it at all, but just ignoring it completely
-she had to quit that job because of sickness
-she eventually found another job but lasted only 2 weeks. She was getting sicker and the complications were getting worse
-after quitting this job she had another breakdown and wouldn't deal with anything, even her creditors who were threatening to come after her. I dealt with them on her behalf and paid off the debt and renegotiated the terms of the loans
-she has been on permanent disability for the past 3 years
-she still won't manage her diabetes despite suffering organ complications
-she is getting sicker, can barely walk some days. She's been to the ICU 8 times and still won't change her behavior
-we've never consummated the marriage as it wasn't until after being married she told me she had vaginal issues and couldn't have intercourse
-from day 1 I have paid all the bills. She pays her own credit cards and buys her own clothes, but that's it
-my insurance through work pays for all her pain medication, which if I had to pay for on my own would bankrupt me in 1 month
I am tired of living with a person that doesn't want to help them self and is not only sabotaging her future but mine/ours. I don't see a future for us anymore. Given her situation, is there actually any way that I could separate and not get completely screwed? Her mom lives 1 minute away and I know for a fact she would just move back home. I am now $60k in debt, we don't own anything of value, would it makes sense to claim bankruptcy before proceeding with a divorce? I feel overwhelmed, and likely need a reality check. Any help/insight would be tremendously appreciated.
Thanks
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