It is a long painful story.
In short D9 and D12, shared and joint custody but horrible relationship with other parent.
In recent months, D9 has started expressing a desire to stay with mom just to sleep. It has been getting more pronounced. Their counselor is concerned because the desired end is to have our children feel easy in both homes but has suggested that we allow our daughters to stay at their mom's home to sleep in the nights and look to have some extra time during the days at their home here.
Here is the issue.
Other parent's position is simple. If D9 and sometimes D12 want to stay at their home there at t night, then adopt that as common practice but only have them spend extra time here if they start asking for it.
I.e. go from 50/50 to they still come to their home here on their regular days but sleep at the otheir other home EVERY night.
Now there are a number of issues which need to be addressed for our children, but for now, I am hoping that someone here might be someone who has a 50/50 schedule where the school-aged children do spend the majority (if not every night) with one parent and a proportionate amount of time with the other parent during the day.
There is an good chance that this will end up becoming a family assessment scenarion (a legal change to our existing parenting agreement will be required if any permanent change occurs).
The immediate priority, however, is being able to provide options for something which can be implemented which ensures appropriate time in both homes if the children are spending the majority of their nights with one parent, until whatever process will take place, can take place.
Thank you everyone
In short D9 and D12, shared and joint custody but horrible relationship with other parent.
In recent months, D9 has started expressing a desire to stay with mom just to sleep. It has been getting more pronounced. Their counselor is concerned because the desired end is to have our children feel easy in both homes but has suggested that we allow our daughters to stay at their mom's home to sleep in the nights and look to have some extra time during the days at their home here.
Here is the issue.
Other parent's position is simple. If D9 and sometimes D12 want to stay at their home there at t night, then adopt that as common practice but only have them spend extra time here if they start asking for it.
I.e. go from 50/50 to they still come to their home here on their regular days but sleep at the otheir other home EVERY night.
Now there are a number of issues which need to be addressed for our children, but for now, I am hoping that someone here might be someone who has a 50/50 schedule where the school-aged children do spend the majority (if not every night) with one parent and a proportionate amount of time with the other parent during the day.
There is an good chance that this will end up becoming a family assessment scenarion (a legal change to our existing parenting agreement will be required if any permanent change occurs).
The immediate priority, however, is being able to provide options for something which can be implemented which ensures appropriate time in both homes if the children are spending the majority of their nights with one parent, until whatever process will take place, can take place.
Thank you everyone
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