My child has autism. He was diagnosed several years ago. Luckily he is high functioning and able to be in the regular school program with some minor support. He is seven years old now.
I have joint custody and should have access to his medical and psychological professionals (by court order). My ex is also obligated to share any details of his assessment and treatments with me.
There are often very long waiting lists for publicly funded treatment programs. Last year he was able to attend an ABA social skills group for a few months. The groups meet every week for 2-3 hours. Here is where the trouble starts...
I have every second weekend with him, from Friday evening until Sunday evening. Last year my ex convinced me that I was not allowed to participate in the therapy and that I could pick him up at her place Saturday afternoon.
For me this wasn't really acceptable because I was losing half of my already limited time with him. We compromised and she allowed me to pick him directly from therapy Saturday morning.
For my son the change to his regular schedule for those few months was devastating. He is autistic and routine is everything. It upset him so much that we had to change my access time permanently and shorten it by several hours so he could adapt.
Last week I got notification from my ex that she was once again terminating my access on weekends for therapy and that I could pick him Saturday afternoons. She said it is scheduled at a later time this year so I will lose most of my weekend with him.
I told her that I do not consent to changing the schedule. I will pick him up as usual on Fridays and I will bring him to therapy on my weekends. If I cannot participate that's OK, she can meet us there and attend with him, and I will go wait at Tim Hortons until therapy is done.
She went apeshit. She is very controlling and has zero respect for me and my relationship with our child. Today she told me she has cancelled his therapy rather than allow me to bring him to it on my weekends.
She also told me she will be signing him up for private therapy and perhaps private school and sending me the bill so he can have therapy that does not fall on my parenting time. Which is simply insane since I consented to his therapy on my parenting time and offered to bring him and/or attend it with him and/or her.
She has kept hidden and refuses to answer any questions about the therapy so I do not really know who to contact. I would like to speak to his professionals to try and make sure he still gets to go. The waiting list is over a year long.
I never thought she would hurt an autistic child just to get back at me, in defiance of all court orders and custody to boot.
Does anyone have any suggestions? I cannot really afford to do so, but would a motion to change help? I don't think so, we already have perfectly good orders, she just won't follow them... Motion for disclosure of his therapy? Motion for contempt for doing this? Should I be calling CAS since she is denying therapy to a special needs child without cause?
I have joint custody and should have access to his medical and psychological professionals (by court order). My ex is also obligated to share any details of his assessment and treatments with me.
There are often very long waiting lists for publicly funded treatment programs. Last year he was able to attend an ABA social skills group for a few months. The groups meet every week for 2-3 hours. Here is where the trouble starts...
I have every second weekend with him, from Friday evening until Sunday evening. Last year my ex convinced me that I was not allowed to participate in the therapy and that I could pick him up at her place Saturday afternoon.
For me this wasn't really acceptable because I was losing half of my already limited time with him. We compromised and she allowed me to pick him directly from therapy Saturday morning.
For my son the change to his regular schedule for those few months was devastating. He is autistic and routine is everything. It upset him so much that we had to change my access time permanently and shorten it by several hours so he could adapt.
Last week I got notification from my ex that she was once again terminating my access on weekends for therapy and that I could pick him Saturday afternoons. She said it is scheduled at a later time this year so I will lose most of my weekend with him.
I told her that I do not consent to changing the schedule. I will pick him up as usual on Fridays and I will bring him to therapy on my weekends. If I cannot participate that's OK, she can meet us there and attend with him, and I will go wait at Tim Hortons until therapy is done.
She went apeshit. She is very controlling and has zero respect for me and my relationship with our child. Today she told me she has cancelled his therapy rather than allow me to bring him to it on my weekends.
She also told me she will be signing him up for private therapy and perhaps private school and sending me the bill so he can have therapy that does not fall on my parenting time. Which is simply insane since I consented to his therapy on my parenting time and offered to bring him and/or attend it with him and/or her.
She has kept hidden and refuses to answer any questions about the therapy so I do not really know who to contact. I would like to speak to his professionals to try and make sure he still gets to go. The waiting list is over a year long.
I never thought she would hurt an autistic child just to get back at me, in defiance of all court orders and custody to boot.
Does anyone have any suggestions? I cannot really afford to do so, but would a motion to change help? I don't think so, we already have perfectly good orders, she just won't follow them... Motion for disclosure of his therapy? Motion for contempt for doing this? Should I be calling CAS since she is denying therapy to a special needs child without cause?
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