Just came back from Ontario court and loosing my mind here. Here's the short story...
My ex-wife has been alienating my daughter against me for the last few years. Last summer was really bad with her denying access and me having to see a lawyer to get involved before she reinstated access. The last year has had it's fair share of ups and downs . Because things were getting difficult again, this past winter/spring I decided to start saving money for my 'lawyer fund' and as incentive, I took a picture of my ex that was on social media and wrote a slogan on it (in poor taste if truth be told) that my daughter found (it was hidden out of sight, but she found it) that she stole and showed it to her mom.
Well, that was the catalyst for her to deny my access totally and immediately. Haven't seen my daughter since late spring. My lawyer is back on the case and we've sent letters, negotiated reinstating my access with her lawyer, had a court date last month where the judge said she has to follow my access order and still, no access. Well, things took a turn for the worse from that court date with my ex being downright hostile and combative. For example, the day of the court date where the judge said my access order was to be followed, she wouldn't even see me at the door and texted me to get off her property or she'll call the police. It's been more or less the same for the last few weeks with her being very animated and argumentative when I go to pick up my daughter. Today was another court date where we were to argue comtempt of court, get my access back, ask for OCL involvement, start family counselling.
What happened was she argued my daughter is under tremendous stress when she has to see me and she isn't in comtempt because she is protecting the child. Judge agreed and deferred all until OCL report.
Of concern is my ex is now going to send my daughter for solo-counselling and judge agreed that is a good idea. I have no input on who she see's nor am I to go see said counsellor to give my version. Basically, I am out of the picture and she is going to further brainwash my daughter against me AND most likely have a counsellor/therapist report to back her up by the time the OCL is involed.
What is my next step? Any suggestions? What are timeframes for OCL involvement and settlement? How is OCL going to report on my situation when by the time they even get my case, I haven't even seen my daughter for many months and the ex has further brainwashed her and alienated her from me? How can the OCL do a fair assessment if I've been out of the picture for 6 months (or more) and it's been adversarial for many months to this day and time already? My daughter is definitely slipping away from me and I also cannot afford a long drawn out hostile legal battle. Tens of thousands of dollars I do not have.
Looking for help.
My ex-wife has been alienating my daughter against me for the last few years. Last summer was really bad with her denying access and me having to see a lawyer to get involved before she reinstated access. The last year has had it's fair share of ups and downs . Because things were getting difficult again, this past winter/spring I decided to start saving money for my 'lawyer fund' and as incentive, I took a picture of my ex that was on social media and wrote a slogan on it (in poor taste if truth be told) that my daughter found (it was hidden out of sight, but she found it) that she stole and showed it to her mom.
Well, that was the catalyst for her to deny my access totally and immediately. Haven't seen my daughter since late spring. My lawyer is back on the case and we've sent letters, negotiated reinstating my access with her lawyer, had a court date last month where the judge said she has to follow my access order and still, no access. Well, things took a turn for the worse from that court date with my ex being downright hostile and combative. For example, the day of the court date where the judge said my access order was to be followed, she wouldn't even see me at the door and texted me to get off her property or she'll call the police. It's been more or less the same for the last few weeks with her being very animated and argumentative when I go to pick up my daughter. Today was another court date where we were to argue comtempt of court, get my access back, ask for OCL involvement, start family counselling.
What happened was she argued my daughter is under tremendous stress when she has to see me and she isn't in comtempt because she is protecting the child. Judge agreed and deferred all until OCL report.
Of concern is my ex is now going to send my daughter for solo-counselling and judge agreed that is a good idea. I have no input on who she see's nor am I to go see said counsellor to give my version. Basically, I am out of the picture and she is going to further brainwash my daughter against me AND most likely have a counsellor/therapist report to back her up by the time the OCL is involed.
What is my next step? Any suggestions? What are timeframes for OCL involvement and settlement? How is OCL going to report on my situation when by the time they even get my case, I haven't even seen my daughter for many months and the ex has further brainwashed her and alienated her from me? How can the OCL do a fair assessment if I've been out of the picture for 6 months (or more) and it's been adversarial for many months to this day and time already? My daughter is definitely slipping away from me and I also cannot afford a long drawn out hostile legal battle. Tens of thousands of dollars I do not have.
Looking for help.
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