Hi,
I don't post often but thought I'd vent a little here.
Here's the Coles notes version...
Married over 15 years, wife was unhappy. Did therapy bla bla... she wanted her own space for a few months. I desperately wanted to make her happy so rented a basement apartment for a few months to let her sort things out.
What I didn't know is that she was dating someone else. She got the house, the kids. She makes more then double what I make. She agreed to a small reduction in child support in lieu paying me spousal support. I'm another weekend dad. (I though in this day and age it was 50 - 50 the judge thought they were better off with their mom.)
It is what it is. After emptying my bank account to fight it I gave up.
Fast forward 6 years later.
I'm happily married. My daughters visit when they want. Our door is always open to them. On fathers day my oldest asked if she could talk. She told me her step dad has been molesting her for over a year. After talking to the police and pressing charges, she decided to live with us. I didn't make any changes to the support order. I figured she'll go back to her moms. After a few months, its clear she's not going back. I'm not asking for child support. All I want is for me to stop paying her, for her to sign a form to let the kid get the money for an RESP we set up and to pay her share of university expenses.
She lawyered up instead.
Its 6 months later, I've paid for 2 semesters of college, therapy for my kid, while still paying out child support.
I'm the guy that wasn't fit for 50-50. False allegations of anger issues, drinking problems... The judge bought it all the first and second time.
I'm fucking tired, I'm broke. At least my daughter is doing well. She's actually blossoming I'm so proud of her.
Next step is a motion to vary.
Not looking for advice, or sympathy.
Big thanks for letting me vent. I feel better now.
I don't post often but thought I'd vent a little here.
Here's the Coles notes version...
Married over 15 years, wife was unhappy. Did therapy bla bla... she wanted her own space for a few months. I desperately wanted to make her happy so rented a basement apartment for a few months to let her sort things out.
What I didn't know is that she was dating someone else. She got the house, the kids. She makes more then double what I make. She agreed to a small reduction in child support in lieu paying me spousal support. I'm another weekend dad. (I though in this day and age it was 50 - 50 the judge thought they were better off with their mom.)
It is what it is. After emptying my bank account to fight it I gave up.
Fast forward 6 years later.
I'm happily married. My daughters visit when they want. Our door is always open to them. On fathers day my oldest asked if she could talk. She told me her step dad has been molesting her for over a year. After talking to the police and pressing charges, she decided to live with us. I didn't make any changes to the support order. I figured she'll go back to her moms. After a few months, its clear she's not going back. I'm not asking for child support. All I want is for me to stop paying her, for her to sign a form to let the kid get the money for an RESP we set up and to pay her share of university expenses.
She lawyered up instead.
Its 6 months later, I've paid for 2 semesters of college, therapy for my kid, while still paying out child support.
I'm the guy that wasn't fit for 50-50. False allegations of anger issues, drinking problems... The judge bought it all the first and second time.
I'm fucking tired, I'm broke. At least my daughter is doing well. She's actually blossoming I'm so proud of her.
Next step is a motion to vary.
Not looking for advice, or sympathy.
Big thanks for letting me vent. I feel better now.
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