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    My ex is currently banging on my locked door with the kids beside her cursing and swearing at me. She's calling me a liar. Demanding I open the door.

    I'm working from home today. It's her access day and she has the kids.

    She is swearing at me and picking fights because I told her I won't do her taxes.

    Edit: yes my recorder is running.

  • #2
    I had a couple similar incidences when I was in the house.

    Don't open the door, remind her that the kids are with her and that you're giving her 10 seconds before you call the police.

    Then do it in exactly 10 seconds if she doesn't stop. And when you call them, tell them you're behind a locked door and hold the phone up so they can hear the noise.

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    • #3
      It stopped and my son came down and wanted in my room so I let him in so I took the opportunity to tell him I loved him and I was sorry he had to listen to the yelling.

      I then had to go upstairs and get something for work. She then took that opportunity to call me a liar and again start to swear at me. Asked her to stop in front of the children and returned to the basement.

      I have a conference call in 5 minutes. Hopefully there will be no more interruptions.

      Should I send her an email stating her behavior or just let it die.

      Lol she just sent me a text. "Can u please change the laundry so I don't have to come down there and disturb u while ur working"

      Nice.

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      • #4
        Even if you were the nicest guy in the world, no sane person would advise you to do your ex's taxes. So much possibility for things to go south, if you make even one minor mistake. If you had reason to be really nice, give her a check for what H&R asks for a basic return ($59 I think). But seeing as she is screaming, I wouldn't give her a penny - what would that teach the children, that screaming and temper tantrums get you what you want?

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        • #5
          I wouldn't send an email, its pointless but I would note the incidences in my daily log in extreme detail (including the kid coming down to get comforted) and make another copy of that tape.

          You can't use that tape in court...but you can definitely use it during a
          custody evaluation...make a copy and get the copy somewhere safe.

          She's definitely escalating...so please be vigilant and keep your tape recorder on at all time. Be careful to try to stay away from her in the house.

          Lol...If she starts screaming at your conference call it gives you a whole meeting room full of people to affidavit.

          Sorry about your day FB...hang in there..these next few months will be the worst of it until you're out of the house. Take care of your kids and best wishes!

          By the way, why can't her bf do her taxes?

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          • #6
            I know its not "funny" but I still say it's a "good sign" when we can find some humour in the chaos. It's definitely not funny or fun - but some of it is (sadly) humorous.

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            • #7
              One of the things she said at the door was that the counselor told us we need to communicate "for" the children.

              I don't think this is exactly what the counselor meant.

              When I told her I was not doing her taxes. She then said well fine I'm going to do my own taxes and I'm claiming all the kids deductions.

              I was ignoring her so well all morning and then she was able to get me going. I quickly realized that I slipped up and immediately went to my room and locked the door. The chaos ensued.

              Lesson learned... I think i'm going to step out of the house for lunch. To take a breath.

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              • #8
                Originally posted by FB_ View Post
                One of the things she said at the door was that the counselor told us we need to communicate "for" the children.

                I don't think this is exactly what the counselor meant.
                haha. No, this is not what he meant. And that's not "communicating". Unless she's trying to use Morse-code on your door with her fist.

                Sorry to hear about this. Just be sure to keep calm (she's hoping you blow up). You have your recorder, so you can prove that you're the non-combatitive one.

                I hope you remain safe. Use your judgement.

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                • #9
                  OMG are you f'in kidding me.

                  She just came downstairs (door unlocked for the kids) asked me to borrow $10 to take the kids to the Mcd's playland. I told her no I'm not lending you money I will never get it back. You can go to the bank and get some. She then yells up to the kids "We can't go your father won't give me any money"

                  My son comes downstairs and asks me "why won't you give mommy any money" I just said to him that "mommy has her own money"

                  He goes back upstairs and I heard him say something although I don't know what it was"

                  I then heard her yell at him that "No daddy is cheap and doesn't pay for anything"

                  I'm about to lose it.

                  I think I'm about to send my lawyer an email outlining what has happened to day. He is planning on updating the court documents this weekend.

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                  • #10
                    I would offer to do her taxes, and have her disclose a cash income of $150,000.

                    Show that she has paid a lot of tax already, so she is getting a huge refund. She'll sign that one happily

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                    • #11
                      Don't lose it FB. Just keep on venting on here!!

                      I would send off information to your lawyer if he is updating the court documents; that is time well spent instead of engaging in her tirade.

                      I feel for you!

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by mom2three View Post
                        Don't lose it FB. Just keep on venting on here!!

                        I would send off information to your lawyer if he is updating the court documents; that is time well spent instead of engaging in her tirade.

                        I feel for you!
                        I'm boiling on the inside and very calm on the outside. It makes me so angry that she is willing to do this to the kids. She has no idea what it is doing to them and doesn't seem to care.'

                        This place is a great place to vent.

                        I just sent my lawyer an email.

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                        • #13
                          Nope, she doesn't see what she is doing to the children and likely never will. Only you can act in their best interests and be the best Dad you can be!

                          And yes, it is an awesome place to vent.

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by oink View Post
                            Are you sure you aren't pulling our legs?

                            This all sounds too good to be true I just hope you have your recorder on

                            Wow.....un freakin believable
                            I honestly 100% wish I was joking for my kids sake.

                            I did have the recorder going but it's not much use to the process.

                            Clearly she is under some kind of pressure again.. Sounds like money. Whenever she gets stressed this is what she acts like.

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                            • #15
                              Well hopefully once the long agonizing process and associated stresses are over, she'll settle down to being a more stable mum.

                              And if later on she argues that she doesn't trust you about something, you can tell the judge that she trusted you enough to ask you to do her tax return.

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