How best to handle?
Hi all,
I received final divorce on consent in early 2014. Took 2+ years, so I was happy to have things over.
There are already issues, and I’m trying to figure out how to best address them. She seems to be completely neglecting the agreement, and doing as she pleases. I’m fully aware what my rights are (ie the agreement), but I’m trying to figure out how to get what's mine, without massive conflict.
I’d like to add I’m business like in my emails to her, and write the email, read it, then send it. There is no in person conversations, and no texting.
Background:
joint legal custody
“….Minimum Every-second weekend and one-half of all holidays….”
My work schedule is out of town one week on, one week off, so we have been alternating summer weeks
“…each year commencing XXXX 2014, child support to be adjusted in accordance to income…”
seems simple enough?
The Problem:
Sent her a copy of my income tax, notice of assessment, and form 15D filled out, for consent to change support (reduction of $75 a month, from $1300 a month – one child). First email, no reply, second email 2 weeks later, no reply, 3rd email a week after that, still no reply. Ignoring me.
Sent her the information to initiate RRSP transfer from my account to hers, as per final agreement. She doesn't have an RRSP account set up yet. Told me next week a few times. I’m collecting interest on her share, so I'm indifferent. Just part of a pattern.
She tells me that her week long summer vacation is during one of my vacation weeks in July, and she would be keeping him for the week. I would be willing to trade for some other times during the summer - gave her a few reasonable options, and she ignored me. Again emailed her 3 times, once a week, no response. Just got an angry response how I can tell our son that their plans are cancelled…
Then tells me that he’s going to summer school for the remainder of July, so I can start alternating weeks in August. I asked for some printed information for the school, dates, times, location.... Only received a snarky message in response to this.
Also unwilling to make a schedule for the remainder of the year for access. Like holidays, etc.
The Closer....
I'm assuming she’s angry – but that's not my problem, I just want things resolved for a block of time - minimal contact, and to keep it that way. There are a host of other small things, like sporadic phone access, school photos, that I didn't bother to go into details on here.
Ideally, her and I could work together and be co-parents, but its in the cards right now.
I’ve tried the nice emails, I’ve tried the in case you forgot emails, and finally the action or I’m going to have to do something about it email.
Can anyone suggest what to do about this situation - to bring resolution without me spending tens of thousands more on lawyers, and without things dragging on forever??
Hi all,
I received final divorce on consent in early 2014. Took 2+ years, so I was happy to have things over.
There are already issues, and I’m trying to figure out how to best address them. She seems to be completely neglecting the agreement, and doing as she pleases. I’m fully aware what my rights are (ie the agreement), but I’m trying to figure out how to get what's mine, without massive conflict.
I’d like to add I’m business like in my emails to her, and write the email, read it, then send it. There is no in person conversations, and no texting.
Background:
joint legal custody
“….Minimum Every-second weekend and one-half of all holidays….”
My work schedule is out of town one week on, one week off, so we have been alternating summer weeks
“…each year commencing XXXX 2014, child support to be adjusted in accordance to income…”
seems simple enough?
The Problem:
Sent her a copy of my income tax, notice of assessment, and form 15D filled out, for consent to change support (reduction of $75 a month, from $1300 a month – one child). First email, no reply, second email 2 weeks later, no reply, 3rd email a week after that, still no reply. Ignoring me.
Sent her the information to initiate RRSP transfer from my account to hers, as per final agreement. She doesn't have an RRSP account set up yet. Told me next week a few times. I’m collecting interest on her share, so I'm indifferent. Just part of a pattern.
She tells me that her week long summer vacation is during one of my vacation weeks in July, and she would be keeping him for the week. I would be willing to trade for some other times during the summer - gave her a few reasonable options, and she ignored me. Again emailed her 3 times, once a week, no response. Just got an angry response how I can tell our son that their plans are cancelled…
Then tells me that he’s going to summer school for the remainder of July, so I can start alternating weeks in August. I asked for some printed information for the school, dates, times, location.... Only received a snarky message in response to this.
Also unwilling to make a schedule for the remainder of the year for access. Like holidays, etc.
The Closer....
I'm assuming she’s angry – but that's not my problem, I just want things resolved for a block of time - minimal contact, and to keep it that way. There are a host of other small things, like sporadic phone access, school photos, that I didn't bother to go into details on here.
Ideally, her and I could work together and be co-parents, but its in the cards right now.
I’ve tried the nice emails, I’ve tried the in case you forgot emails, and finally the action or I’m going to have to do something about it email.
Can anyone suggest what to do about this situation - to bring resolution without me spending tens of thousands more on lawyers, and without things dragging on forever??
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