STBX and I had a talk about future plans last night. He asked what my plans were. I told him I would stay with my mom for a year and finish off paying school debt. We have been unable to agree where our daughter (3) will start school next year. He wants to live near family, and so do I , which is about 45 mins apart.
Our daughter attends daycare at a facility about 10 mins drive from each of our workplaces. (Vaughan) The best solution I could come up with was to find a way to continue having her attend this daycare whenever she is not in school (as they are half days I think). That way she will have some stability in her life (we are selling the home and moving away from Barrie) So I figured after a year, when she was to start school I would move in to the school area so that she could attend one of the schools that use her current daycare. She would be at the daycare before school and after school, and would know all the teachers and keep her friends.
Of course there is one bonus for me, my commute would only be 15 mins. However, I would have to pay a higher rent in this area, but it would still work out a little better money wise.
So of course STBX freaked out saynig this was selfish of me. I told him it wasn't as I was trying to keep things as stable for her as possible. I do not have an friends or support in this area. I said you could as easily move to the area so she could attend one of these schools, he said no, he wanted to be near family.
Am I being selfish? Does this sound like a reasonable plan?
Our daughter attends daycare at a facility about 10 mins drive from each of our workplaces. (Vaughan) The best solution I could come up with was to find a way to continue having her attend this daycare whenever she is not in school (as they are half days I think). That way she will have some stability in her life (we are selling the home and moving away from Barrie) So I figured after a year, when she was to start school I would move in to the school area so that she could attend one of the schools that use her current daycare. She would be at the daycare before school and after school, and would know all the teachers and keep her friends.
Of course there is one bonus for me, my commute would only be 15 mins. However, I would have to pay a higher rent in this area, but it would still work out a little better money wise.
So of course STBX freaked out saynig this was selfish of me. I told him it wasn't as I was trying to keep things as stable for her as possible. I do not have an friends or support in this area. I said you could as easily move to the area so she could attend one of these schools, he said no, he wanted to be near family.
Am I being selfish? Does this sound like a reasonable plan?
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