I have mediation session with ex scheduled for next week to try and settle custody and access issues for 2 year old son on a final basis with a courthouse mediator.
If mediation fails, judge will be setting trial date at next TMC in November.
From reading the comments on here it doesn't seem to be a good idea for honest litigants to be completely forthright and put your bottom line on the table in mediation when the two parties are far apart, especially if the other party is high conflict.
Is it wise for me to start out asking for more than I am actually willing to settle for and play it like a poker hand?
If she agrees to what I'm asking for great, in reality that's not likely to happen but I would like to leave myself wiggle room to appear to back down and compromise and then ultimately end up close to my bottom line.
Ex wants Sole, all decision making w me having access and table CS. She is also specifying that she gets son on every birthday, every Christmas and has permission to travel and relocate without my consent. (Ex has LAO lawyer)
I'm planning on going into mediation seeking joint w parallel parenting and increasing parenting time until the summer before S2 starts school full days when we would change to 50/50 shared. (I am self-repped).
Thoughts and advice welcome.
If mediation fails, judge will be setting trial date at next TMC in November.
From reading the comments on here it doesn't seem to be a good idea for honest litigants to be completely forthright and put your bottom line on the table in mediation when the two parties are far apart, especially if the other party is high conflict.
Is it wise for me to start out asking for more than I am actually willing to settle for and play it like a poker hand?
If she agrees to what I'm asking for great, in reality that's not likely to happen but I would like to leave myself wiggle room to appear to back down and compromise and then ultimately end up close to my bottom line.
Ex wants Sole, all decision making w me having access and table CS. She is also specifying that she gets son on every birthday, every Christmas and has permission to travel and relocate without my consent. (Ex has LAO lawyer)
I'm planning on going into mediation seeking joint w parallel parenting and increasing parenting time until the summer before S2 starts school full days when we would change to 50/50 shared. (I am self-repped).
Thoughts and advice welcome.
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