how to reimburse extraordinary expenses

[Foredeck]

I have shared custody, and I pay the net amount of CS as per the guidelines. I also make all payments for extraordinary expenses.

What is the norm, or the court precedence on how to get reimbursed for this?

I am suggesting to pay the net amount, so CS minus her share of those expenses. And, if it goes up, I'll adjust it.

My lawyer is wondering what would happen if one month there's a big expense, and the next month there's nothing. He wanted to do it that it would be based on prior year expenses.

I also told him that if there was small variations on a monthly basis, I wouldn't care. I paid for the diapers at day care, her winter jacket and winter boots, and I won't look to be reimbursed for that. I know that I'll also be on the hook for some expenses, since my ex would refuse if she had to pay her share. And, I've accepted that.

[billiechic]

I think it's best that they are kept seperately. You can bill within 30 days of the expense, and she must pay within 30 days. Sort of like a credit company. She can do the same thing. For daycare costs, she should just provide you with a cheque prior to the expense (or email money transfer) since those costs are fixed and predictable.

Make sure you get all that written into your SA. You can always giver her a heads up that there was an expense incurred so she can start putting the money together.

[Foredeck]

Most of the expenses are predictable.

I have Day care, health insurance, RESP that are the same every month. The one variable is for sports. I put in 30$ per month now, and it comes to slightly above that.

The thing about invoicing her is that I have to send her an invoice every month, and we go over it. Then, I have to collect it.

If I just send her the net amount, it's one less transaction. And, there would be a line that these expenses must be agreed upon, so I couldn't just change it without telling her.

She is in a tighter situation financially, which is why I am paying the expenses and she's reimbursing me. But, it also means that I can't send her an invoice at the end of the year for 1500$. She just won't have the money and it'll be another fight and I'll end up just not collecting.