Cheating wife

[dave1999]

Does her cheating and admitting it give me any sort of advantage when it comes to dividing the assets. There was no violence, or emotional abuse on my part. She just lost control of herself and 'flicked the switch'. We have a business together and she also works full time as a manager but I'm off work, on EI and going to college in the fall and would like her to ante up some funds to offset my costs. She has the house, the boat,the truck, the business, etc. She initially agreed to pay me something but has since denied it. Where do I stand on this issue?
Sorry for the mix up.

[#1StepMom]

I don't know much on this topic, but from what I've read on this forum, and other forums, admitting guilt in a divorce or family law case doesn't make a difference. The reason for the divorce (unless there was physical or emotional abuse) is irrelevant. The separation or divorce proceedings would go on as they normally would had she not admitted to cheating. Sorry, but that's just the way it goes with these Courts.

[About_Time]

StepMom is right - cheating has no impact on division of assets or pretty much anything else in the divorce proceedings.

That said, you are probably entitled to half of the whole sha-bang here: house, boat, truck and business. Also, if she is working and you are not, you would probably be entitled to spousal support to help offset the costs of your education.

Lawyer up ASAP and agree to nothing until you've done so. They will let you know what you can expect to get and how your should proceed.

[dave1999]

Thanks a bunch all - I kinda figured that would be the case. Maybe someday the laws will change to reflect on infidelity in a partnership, afterall it is the lowest thing that can happen someone and for her to get away free and clear while hurting her family is despicable. I believe in karma, good and bad.

[today]

karma absolutey, sometimes it takes longer but what goes around generally comes around. Good luck sorrry about your situation, very sad.

[PhoenixRising]

I can attest to the Karma effect.

10 years later his infidelity came around and bit him on his own derriere. I didn't gloat but I think he already realizes that what goes around comes around.

[standing on the sidelines]

Thanks a bunch all - I kinda figured that would be the case. Maybe someday the laws will change to reflect on infidelity in a partnership, afterall it is the lowest thing that can happen someone and for her to get away free and clear while hurting her family is despicable. I believe in karma, good and bad.

i totally believe in karma also.

[enoughalready]

It's a wonderful court system we have. My ex cheated on me also. We have been divorce officially since 1998 and I have to pay her and the guy she cheated on me with every month. I get a life sentence of support payments and she cheated. I struggle to afford to visit my children and work 3 jobs to pay her and she's off on trips to Jamaica and the Dominican. Make a lot of sence. The courts don't even care.

[decent fellow]

I'm with you brother! My X cheated with her "best friend's" husband just one year after our daughter was born, then proceeds to take me to the cleaner financially, and then tries to minimize my access to my daughter... now I work my butt off to make ends meet and to try to support my new family (now 3 kids and REAL wife!), while still forking out $4000 per month to the X.

I believe in Karma, as well... the X never lasted with her best friend's husband, and she's lost all her old circle of friends, doesn't appear to have made any new friends in the past 7 years, and has been on internet dating sites since then (and never been able to keep a boyfriend for more than 2-3 months). She is truly a piece of work.

I might not be rich financially because of her, but I am rich inside!

[midnightvampyr]

Contact MP's and MPP's and voice your displeasure with the present system. It was created by our elected legislators and can be reformed by the same but there has to be a consistent barrage of complaints - even a unified voice or political lobby group to change the stupidity of the present system...that is the only way things will change

[Foredeck]

I asked my lawyer this question as well as my company's internal legal counsel.

Both their answers were identical. Technically, it has no effect, however, a judge is human. If there's a gray area, he will be more compassionate towards the party that was cheated on. Also, he said, that the local judge is of the opinion that you should not enrich yourself if you were the cause of the separation. However, it is clearly stated that it should not be considered.

I also believe in karma, and I must say, it does feel a little nice when my ex is jealous of her new partner. She's scared of being cheated on, yet she had no problem doing it to me.