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Briefly..... Every little thing is a problem with my stepsons mother. Since our initial order was made, my husband got a new job and we have had to move cities. The order that is in place now doesn't allow him to actually see his son on his 'access' time. Any attempt to change weekends, pick up and drop off times, change in any vacation time that would allow father and son to see each other and have quality family time together are not legally binding and fall through at the last minute even though we try and settle things months in advance. Up until now we have just stuck with the order, which means that half the time the child is with us (I mean me), my husband is not (he works 24 hour shifts, so really not here at all). His son is now saying that he doesn't see his dad enough and would like to see him more. So we are trying mediation (which she has cancelled now 3 times) but now it is reeking havoc on our own life as we are never sure when the child is coming over. Soooo, any suggestions. I know a lot of you deal with problem ex's I am wondering if there is any useful advice out there. Court is a very last option, we are broke from the first order. Can anyone suggest what a judge would say in this situation? We have a paper trail 6 years long as it is basically the only method of communication between the adults.
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You aren't going to get very far in the courts, as it sounds like the mom is the custodial parent and her judgement will be given much weight. A judge may order the mom to be reasonable, but there are virtually no reprecussions if she decides to ignore the order.
Your best bet is to get her to agree with you somehow, How you get that to happen will depend on how child centred she wants to be. It doesn't appear she's been too reasonable thus far, so some creativity and imagination will be in order.
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I have no advice but just want you to know your frustrations are heard. I don't know how a supposedly loving mother can do this to your stepson. Sounds like she is using him to extract her revenge. If she would just admit how important it is for kids to have BOTH their parents in their lives. This will come back to bite her some day.Comment
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Thanks to the both of you. I know this is going to come back and bite her in the butt, I just am trying to head off the problems that we will be asked to fix in the future when she gets tired of the kid, she is not thinking of him at all. It is really sad.......Comment
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