I'm trying to help out a friend here - she is really struggling.
Her and her H are separating - her h won't let her leave the house. He has taken away phones, car keys and refuses to let her leave (with their children).
She can't possibly afford a residence w/o child support which he refuses to pay until they have an agreement in writing - he refuses to let her leave until there is an agreement in writing. He is pursuing shared custody so that he won't have to pay her child support - he is trying to have her viewed as unstable - although she is the one that takes care of the children - takes them to appts, daycare, school etc.
Please - can someone tell me what a judge looks at in these situations? I know that shared custody is a strange thing - and the H refuses to do mediation/collaboration - he has retained a VERY EXPENSIVE lawyer that honestly - no other lawyer in this town will go up against - how awful is that? She can't even get representation b/c of his lawyer's reputation.
She is so scared of losing her children (although he is an alcoholic and has to be begged to take time off work to care for sick children when she isn't able). He is threatening her with so many things and w/o a lawyer yet, she is freaking out.
I've told her to get out and go to a shelter but she can't do it (pride?).
Any info would be helpful - I've been through separation and divorce, but mine was relatively amicable and my ex took responsibility for his actions. This man just seems hellbent on making this as difficult and painful as possible.
If there are links to this sort of info on this board, I'd appreciate the help.
Thank you in advance. I'm very scared for her.
Her and her H are separating - her h won't let her leave the house. He has taken away phones, car keys and refuses to let her leave (with their children).
She can't possibly afford a residence w/o child support which he refuses to pay until they have an agreement in writing - he refuses to let her leave until there is an agreement in writing. He is pursuing shared custody so that he won't have to pay her child support - he is trying to have her viewed as unstable - although she is the one that takes care of the children - takes them to appts, daycare, school etc.
Please - can someone tell me what a judge looks at in these situations? I know that shared custody is a strange thing - and the H refuses to do mediation/collaboration - he has retained a VERY EXPENSIVE lawyer that honestly - no other lawyer in this town will go up against - how awful is that? She can't even get representation b/c of his lawyer's reputation.
She is so scared of losing her children (although he is an alcoholic and has to be begged to take time off work to care for sick children when she isn't able). He is threatening her with so many things and w/o a lawyer yet, she is freaking out.
I've told her to get out and go to a shelter but she can't do it (pride?).
Any info would be helpful - I've been through separation and divorce, but mine was relatively amicable and my ex took responsibility for his actions. This man just seems hellbent on making this as difficult and painful as possible.
If there are links to this sort of info on this board, I'd appreciate the help.
Thank you in advance. I'm very scared for her.
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