If you recall my previous posts, we have OCL on board. They have done their interviewing. Don't know what happens next but I think they will get the collateral information now - school, doctor, references etc etc.
I am also taking my son for individual counselling as I thought it would be helpful for him to air out some grievances he's been keeping inside and letting out little by little here and there. Shocking revelations! He is now telling that his mother was hitting him on almost daily basis and some times leaving bruises. She was shaming him for being too much of a daddy's boy and probably feeling jealous and insecure (which I don't understand why). Anyways, I am pretty sure he has told the OCL about the past physical abuse and current emotional and psychological abuse.
So far I have been working very hard to keep him motivated to see his mother. Now it seems that I am not doing anything to protect him enough from all of this. There were few occasions when I did see her hitting him but I assumed she had stopped after I gave her very harsh warnings. As per my son now, she was threatening him for more serious punishments if he tried to tell me about it. When I questioned about bruises on his arms and face, I was told that he got hurt while playing.
If he has told the OCL about the abuse, should I still be worried about losing the custody?
What should I do if OCL does recognize and document that he was being abused by his mom? Should I move for restricting the access or have it changed to supervised access?
What if OCL ignores this and does nothing about it? How can I get independent evidence of this abuse? I know CAS won't listen if allegations are against the mother. Its very hard for me to explain but my son starts shivering if you even joke about him living with his mom. I need some guidance on how to handle this delicate situation without making it worse.
Thanks in advance.
I am also taking my son for individual counselling as I thought it would be helpful for him to air out some grievances he's been keeping inside and letting out little by little here and there. Shocking revelations! He is now telling that his mother was hitting him on almost daily basis and some times leaving bruises. She was shaming him for being too much of a daddy's boy and probably feeling jealous and insecure (which I don't understand why). Anyways, I am pretty sure he has told the OCL about the past physical abuse and current emotional and psychological abuse.
So far I have been working very hard to keep him motivated to see his mother. Now it seems that I am not doing anything to protect him enough from all of this. There were few occasions when I did see her hitting him but I assumed she had stopped after I gave her very harsh warnings. As per my son now, she was threatening him for more serious punishments if he tried to tell me about it. When I questioned about bruises on his arms and face, I was told that he got hurt while playing.
If he has told the OCL about the abuse, should I still be worried about losing the custody?
What should I do if OCL does recognize and document that he was being abused by his mom? Should I move for restricting the access or have it changed to supervised access?
What if OCL ignores this and does nothing about it? How can I get independent evidence of this abuse? I know CAS won't listen if allegations are against the mother. Its very hard for me to explain but my son starts shivering if you even joke about him living with his mom. I need some guidance on how to handle this delicate situation without making it worse.
Thanks in advance.
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