My kids used to come to me with things that were being said about myself and my family in their household but I used to just brush it off.
It is getting worse and everytime they come the things I am hearing are sounding to be more and more damaging to my character and I wonder how I should handle the situation.
I dont want to get into specifics but the gist of it is my ex and her husband are telling the kids I don't want them, I don't care about them and feeding them lies about my past about when my ex false accused me and I wound up with a record which is long gone.
She told my 12 year old I have a criminal record and it is because I abused him at 2 yrs old which is NOT true at all and the charges were dropped by her because after being questioned she broke and confessed it was not true.
My son is now asking me what happened and is being persistent. He also is catching onto all of the lies he hears and is now being punished when he tells his mother and her sister (his aunt) to stop bashing me and talking about me infront of him. He has yet to stand up to his step-father because he is very scared of him because he gets physical. I have advised him to not get involved and to just always remember I love him, I want him and I would never hurt him.
He is 12. I dont think he needs to know specifics but I did tell him I would never have put him in danger and it was not a good situation and he will find the truth when he is much older.
Their mother has been consistently interfering with my weekend access, causing drama and conflict each time (puts a damper on our weekend), threatening to reduce my every other weekend visitation because routine has changed in her household.
My wife and I went on a 3 day mini vacation on a Monday-Wednesday and the weekend prior I did miss the kids because I was away working in another province. Mother told 12 yr old "its so nice of your father to go away on a holiday on your weekend when he was supposed to see you, dont kid yourself, he doesnt want you" That is when my son stook up for me and told her that it wasnt our weekend and then asked her what are you trying to do to me mom?
So hard to hear this crap. My wife and I have been on 2 3 day vacations in 6 years. She has taken my kids for the last 2 FULL months of August to the east coast and I gave up my visitation for her to take them because it was a good experience and it is her husbands family that lives there...just thought it would be good they be involved in his family as well. BUT now I am punished for missing those weekends and being told I didnt want them?
She has proceeded to her lawyer all over hockey...I never was notified of it nor did I consent (a whole other topic I am not going to get into here) But she wants to reduce my visitation. There are 2 other kids that would miss out all because of hockey.
My 12 year old wants to live with me. He has been sure about it for a year now. I dont know how to handle that than to tell him that he is always welcome but he has to be sure before I could proceed with it.
He is sure. But again very scared of his step dad and them knowing. He figgured it was as easy as just staying here and not going home. I dont know if I should explain the process as I dont even understand it.
Any advice how to handle this? I have been in contact with my lawyer and he is seeing a lot of parental alienation going on but says it is a long hard battle to prove.
:/
It is getting worse and everytime they come the things I am hearing are sounding to be more and more damaging to my character and I wonder how I should handle the situation.
I dont want to get into specifics but the gist of it is my ex and her husband are telling the kids I don't want them, I don't care about them and feeding them lies about my past about when my ex false accused me and I wound up with a record which is long gone.
She told my 12 year old I have a criminal record and it is because I abused him at 2 yrs old which is NOT true at all and the charges were dropped by her because after being questioned she broke and confessed it was not true.
My son is now asking me what happened and is being persistent. He also is catching onto all of the lies he hears and is now being punished when he tells his mother and her sister (his aunt) to stop bashing me and talking about me infront of him. He has yet to stand up to his step-father because he is very scared of him because he gets physical. I have advised him to not get involved and to just always remember I love him, I want him and I would never hurt him.
He is 12. I dont think he needs to know specifics but I did tell him I would never have put him in danger and it was not a good situation and he will find the truth when he is much older.
Their mother has been consistently interfering with my weekend access, causing drama and conflict each time (puts a damper on our weekend), threatening to reduce my every other weekend visitation because routine has changed in her household.
My wife and I went on a 3 day mini vacation on a Monday-Wednesday and the weekend prior I did miss the kids because I was away working in another province. Mother told 12 yr old "its so nice of your father to go away on a holiday on your weekend when he was supposed to see you, dont kid yourself, he doesnt want you" That is when my son stook up for me and told her that it wasnt our weekend and then asked her what are you trying to do to me mom?
So hard to hear this crap. My wife and I have been on 2 3 day vacations in 6 years. She has taken my kids for the last 2 FULL months of August to the east coast and I gave up my visitation for her to take them because it was a good experience and it is her husbands family that lives there...just thought it would be good they be involved in his family as well. BUT now I am punished for missing those weekends and being told I didnt want them?
She has proceeded to her lawyer all over hockey...I never was notified of it nor did I consent (a whole other topic I am not going to get into here) But she wants to reduce my visitation. There are 2 other kids that would miss out all because of hockey.
My 12 year old wants to live with me. He has been sure about it for a year now. I dont know how to handle that than to tell him that he is always welcome but he has to be sure before I could proceed with it.
He is sure. But again very scared of his step dad and them knowing. He figgured it was as easy as just staying here and not going home. I dont know if I should explain the process as I dont even understand it.
Any advice how to handle this? I have been in contact with my lawyer and he is seeing a lot of parental alienation going on but says it is a long hard battle to prove.
:/
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