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    Mother put s9 in competitive weekend sports against my consent and now wanting to change my visitation to accommodate the change in their routines. We live 3 hours apart. All games are 4-6 hours from my residence.

    I work oilfield and had been unemployed for 1 yr. thankfully had savings so support was not effected however this was one of my reasons for not agreeing to the expensive every weekend sport, s12 got braces this year and the other reason was it interferes with my visitation rights.

    Same year I lose my job mother wins a $1 mil lawsuit. Same year she enrolled kids in said weekend sports without giving notice or obtaining my consent. But promised she talked to the association and he is allowed to miss his games without penalty on my wkds.

    Says she will no longer bring kids on my weekends unless I am here for the whole duration of their visit. (Side note) my whole family lives here and the kids have a sibling here to visit as well, same aged cousins live 2 houses away. They have stated they want to come even if I am working.

    I find it unfair to have my visitation rights taken because I need to work. I have a job in a different province now that I travel to just to keep the roof over our heads and if I am taking time off to see the kids which I have no problem doing I don't find it fair to be on the road for 10 hours sitting at hockey rinks with 3 other kids 4-5 hours away from my home because the mother unilaterally put child in this sport against my wishes.

    Do I have a case here? Can she really control my time and what I do with the kids when I only see them 4 days a month?

    Any suggestions? I have tons of documentation her saying she will never enroll in this sport and me saying I would not agree to it. We did come to an agreement on a less competitive level that would not interfere then she lied and said it was no longer available. And put him in anyways.

    She is seeking legal council and has ordered me to get into contact with mine.

  • #2
    My son was in house league Fridays after school and I agreed to that only. She stated she understood my views and this was a good common ground and will only ever be house league.

    Her husband is big into hockey and has told my son your father doesn't pay for it we do. You will not be missing any games to go to your dads.

    This has been a battle for 5 years and every year it gets worse. Last year enrolling him without telling me or asking me even...says she isn't asking for contribution just wants him to participate. Now this year I am slammed with all the fees. Again enrolling him back in July and sending me the invoice in September.

    Because I refused to pay now we're going to court so I can fight to save my every other weekend visits.

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    • #3
      Originally posted by twister777 View Post
      Can she really control my time and what I do with the kids when I only see them 4 days a month?
      What does your agreement say?

      Generally speaking, she cannot affect your time even if you saw them 15 days a month.

      She is seeking legal council and has ordered me to get into contact with mine.
      Luckily she is not a judge so she doesn't get to order you around. Let her file a motion, don't spend too much money on lawyers yet. You might get some threatening lawyer letters. None of that really matters until they serve you, so don't panic.

      Any suggestions?
      1. You are unemployed, so take the opportunity to move closer.
      2. Start asking to see the kid more. ("I'm free today, can I pick the kid up and drop him off at 8pm?"). Luckily, you are unemployed, so you have the time.
      3. If she threatens to deny access, show up anyway to pick up the kid. If she denies access once, get a lawyer to write an angry letter. If she denies access twice, then you go to court.

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      • #4
        I am no longer unemployed. I found a job after looking for a year but it is in another province 3 hours away from my home. Economy is bad in Alberta. There is no other options for me at the present.

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        • #5
          You were clear, I misread it. I do apologize.

          Show up for access, motion for contempt after she refuses access the second time. Know that there will be no punishment, just a stern warning. But, that might be enough to end the games.

          To be honest though, you live 3 hours away from your kids. It is unlikely that you will be able to maintain the relationship with them. You probably have to choose between meaningful employment and your children, and that is a terrible choice to have to make.

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