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    Hi folks,

    I am getting CAS attention due to my soon to be ex. At my last court date, I told the judge of the situation, and the judge was of the opinion that I should tell CAS to take a hike".

    I am a tad uneasy, Is it OK to ignore them, or should I schedule an interview Obviously the stories are bogus, but the thing is, I do not do very well under pressure

    What kind of questions should I expect, are they going to grill me?

    Appreciate the answers.

  • #2
    Originally posted by dana2 View Post
    Hi folks,

    I am getting CAS attention due to my soon to be ex. At my last court date, I told the judge of the situation, and the judge was of the opinion that I should tell CAS to take a hike".

    I am a tad uneasy, Is it OK to ignore them, or should I schedule an interview Obviously the stories are bogus, but the thing is, I do not do very well under pressure

    What kind of questions should I expect, are they going to grill me?

    Appreciate the answers.
    I don't think that it is as easy to tell them to take a hike. If you have nothing to hide then it is best to work with them. If you refuse to deal with them (or ignore them) then they will feel you must be hiding something.

    What are the accusations? What are the age of the child/ren?

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    • #3
      Swat to bum. I am guessing that technically constitutes spanking. And holding my children's arms firmly. Children are 10 and 7.

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      • #4
        CAS is there to do their job which is to investigate all reports whether legit or not. Do the interview and leave all you animosity, negativity and anger at your ex out of it. Stay neutral and child focused. Dont think they will automatically jump to anything or think you a bad parent but also dont give up too much info.

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        • #5
          Will they for sure remain neutral?

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          • #6
            Seems pretty minor but I think CAS is duty bound to investigate. I think if you can present the calm normal parent to them they will dismiss it and then it will look good on your part and not so good that she just,led to report this to CAS. Show she is hostile.

            My daughters ex tried to make a big deal out of her playing with their son at bath time. Me would run from the bathroom to the bedroom laughing and saying naked bottom and she would chase him to get him dressed. He loved the game and giggled falling around on the floor.

            He told .dad of the fun game and Dad wanted to make a big deal,about it. She just said go ahead if you have time to waste I will happily show anyone what a happy safe environment with loving caring family our son lives in. Then asked how he will fare if the tables are reversed!

            So just invite CAS in you have nothing to hide!

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            • #7
              If CAS is involved, you don't really have a choice. Their mandate is to protect children. The only way that they can determine whether your child is safe in your home is to talk to you. Remember that CAS' goal is not to remove children from homes or to disrupt parenting but to ensure children's safety. They do a lot of investigations in which they check out the situation, confirm that the children are not being neglected or abused, and then close the file. I would say schedule the interview as soon as possible so you can get this done and put it behind you.

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              • #8
                Been there done that....

                Ok...1) Cas is there to protect the children 2) They are there to also protect the woman's position and her voice. 3) Cas are in the business to monitor and remove. They do not help families!!! 4) They have before removed kids without a warrant 5) Police are their muscle

                After I told CAS that my ex has hit the kids across the face....they began an investigation on me. CAS will never believe a man's word. It NOT part of their mandate. They sent a goon in to interview me and threaten me with claims and condescending statements. You through a hard personality at me and I standup....not the best thing to do. CAS increased their position...meanwhile my ex was still hitting the kids and I could not get proof. Finally, CAS changed their investigator to a much more calm individual...however no one investigated the kids.

                CAS operates with the full extent of the law and more. They have no watch dog and extensive resources in funds backing them....The government should end their rule...

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                • #9
                  I've never had any dealing with CAS, but I know people who have, both male and female (including family members who were being investigated). I've also called CAS myself because of concerns about an acquaintance's kids. My observation is that CAS focuses on the children and on strengthening the family unit. They work with parents to keep the kids, they don't swoop in and take them. I have not seen any evidence of gender bias - in the case where I made the call, the parent in question was female, and CAS took temporary custody of the children while working with the mom to get her to a position where she could look after them better, and the kids are now back with her.

                  If you go into a CAS investigation with a tough-guy attitude that this is all unnecessary and all your ex's fault, you won't get far. They deal with that kind of thing all the time. If you go into it with the attitude that you have nothing to hide and they are welcome to ask anything and observe anything that they like, you will have a much easier time.

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                  • #10
                    Really - you're a woman - they are most likely going to bias towards you. Women who lose their kids are seriously abusive.... It won't be a single small incident.

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by stripes View Post
                      I've never had any dealing with CAS, but I know people who have, both male and female (including family members who were being investigated). I've also called CAS myself because of concerns about an acquaintance's kids. My observation is that CAS focuses on the children and on strengthening the family unit. They work with parents to keep the kids, they don't swoop in and take them. I have not seen any evidence of gender bias - in the case where I made the call, the parent in question was female, and CAS took temporary custody of the children while working with the mom to get her to a position where she could look after them better, and the kids are now back with her.

                      If you go into a CAS investigation with a tough-guy attitude that this is all unnecessary and all your ex's fault, you won't get far. They deal with that kind of thing all the time. If you go into it with the attitude that you have nothing to hide and they are welcome to ask anything and observe anything that they like, you will have a much easier time.
                      now come on stripes then they couldn't use the fall back position that cas and the courts are biased against men and nothing to do with them. They can never admit that it was their own attitude.

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                      • #12
                        Thanks guys, nothing to hide here. It is just what the judge said, "to tell CAS to take a hike", that made me think twice, that threw me off completely.

                        I am not afraid since there is nothing to uncover by the CAS. This is just a little dirt that my ex is throwing my way (by the way, the "complaint" comes 4 years after separation, when he "suddenly remembered" ), perhaps at the advice of his lawyer (not sure, is this something that lawyers advise their clients to do?). And the opposing counsel sure is nasty.

                        However I most definitely am not legally versatile, have never before dealt with the court system, I do not have money to spend on lawyers, and do not want to make a LEGAL mistake, and I was thinking that, perhaps, since I am unrepresented, the judge was letting me know of what usually people do in this type of situation, from a legal perspective.

                        Hence the question on this forum.

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                        • #13
                          Originally posted by dana2 View Post
                          Thanks guys, nothing to hide here. It is just what the judge said, "to tell CAS to take a hike", that made me think twice, that threw me off completely.

                          I am not afraid since there is nothing to uncover by the CAS. This is just a little dirt that my ex is throwing my way (by the way, the "complaint" comes 4 years after separation, when he "suddenly remembered" ), perhaps at the advice of his lawyer (not sure, is this something that lawyers advise their clients to do?). And the opposing counsel sure is nasty.

                          However I most definitely am not legally versatile, have never before dealt with the court system, I do not have money to spend on lawyers, and do not want to make a LEGAL mistake, and I was thinking that, perhaps, since I am unrepresented, the judge was letting me know of what usually people do in this type of situation, from a legal perspective.

                          Hence the question on this forum.
                          once cas sees that your ex is just mudslinging they will most likely close the file.

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