Im looking for some thoughts and input. Partner and I have been discussing the holidays and schedules and his holiday time with his kids and hes trying to figure out how to approach this.
Their agreement states monthly access "agreed upon by all parties" i.e. the kids too. Holidays are separate and the agreement states "overrides the regular schedule". The only place it states agreed to by all is regular monthly parenting time. It also states if other opportunities arise...neither shall insist the arrangements set out be adhered to. Its his year to have the kids Dec 23-36. Two years ago he agreed to switch his time because the kids didnt want to miss out on family traditions etc. Last year he found out they didnt do their holiday tradition until the 26th. His oldest is 19 and doesnt have to do anything undesired. His 14 yo is still subject to it. Last year they put up a fight about visiting at all. Hes already sent a request and a second request with via rail seat sale info. The ex bitches about the 14 yo traveling alone and the 19yo told him that the 14 yo doesnt want to travel alone as its "emotionally draining". He gets nothing when he asks the 14 yo himself. And mom has NEVER "made up" time denied as she says it was the kids' decision not hers. Plus, his ex in laws make plans for the whole family for holidays and his ex doesnt consult him on schedules (christmas and summer vaca in particular).
So, how would you handle this? Email to mom reminding of the agreement terms? Continue to wait for the kids? Email all of them asking? He will more than likely be working the 27th to jan 2 which means 24-26 would be ideal quality time with his kids. Thoughts welcome!
Their agreement states monthly access "agreed upon by all parties" i.e. the kids too. Holidays are separate and the agreement states "overrides the regular schedule". The only place it states agreed to by all is regular monthly parenting time. It also states if other opportunities arise...neither shall insist the arrangements set out be adhered to. Its his year to have the kids Dec 23-36. Two years ago he agreed to switch his time because the kids didnt want to miss out on family traditions etc. Last year he found out they didnt do their holiday tradition until the 26th. His oldest is 19 and doesnt have to do anything undesired. His 14 yo is still subject to it. Last year they put up a fight about visiting at all. Hes already sent a request and a second request with via rail seat sale info. The ex bitches about the 14 yo traveling alone and the 19yo told him that the 14 yo doesnt want to travel alone as its "emotionally draining". He gets nothing when he asks the 14 yo himself. And mom has NEVER "made up" time denied as she says it was the kids' decision not hers. Plus, his ex in laws make plans for the whole family for holidays and his ex doesnt consult him on schedules (christmas and summer vaca in particular).
So, how would you handle this? Email to mom reminding of the agreement terms? Continue to wait for the kids? Email all of them asking? He will more than likely be working the 27th to jan 2 which means 24-26 would be ideal quality time with his kids. Thoughts welcome!
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