As I have mentioned my daughters mother had sole custody from birth until August 1st and we got shared. She was also found in contempt and I was given some additional time.
Mom refused to register child in school. I was advised by a lawyer that because mom has more weeknights that I should allow mom a chance to register and not fight it (I didn't want the move to that school for multiple reasons dealing with child's special needs, change in board, and it would be her 7th school, 10th home) However I did work with mom to start the process and emailed with mom that she needed to do her end. I also reminded her and she continued to originally say no then said it was done and she was all set to start the first day.
I arrived with our child first day of school to find out mom has never contacted them, there is no spot for our daughter. That she wouldn't be able to start until mom brings in the information and that there would have to be a meeting before they could even accept her. I also learned from principal and Sert that mom never talked to them, the class size discussed was false, the ea issue was false.
After talking with a lawyer and asking my daughter where she wanted to go to school (she is 10 and a half) without telling her to much detail I enrolled her in the school she chose, which I also felt was a better fit.
Smaller class, she has attended there for 2 (not last year though mom moved her when I bought my home in school zone), she could stay for remainder of elementary school, IEP and Identification automatically follows her she has autism, she has friends here, and her siblings and cousins attend the school. 5 minutes from my house and about 12 minutes from moms.
Mom was notified today of the registration after everything was finalized as lawyer advised.
The lawyer also advised me to file a 14 and a 14 A asking for the school to stay where she is registered, and sole decision making regarding education.
Now She is freaking (which I expected) but she isn't threatening to take her out of the school, just to have me found in contempt, and see what legal steps she can take to switch her schools as she doesn't want her in my area school, she will not listen to any of my points and although even the principal at moms school choice felt the situation would be best if child stayed in my district due to her needs and what they can provide mom still wants child moved.
So my qustion is do I still file the 14 and 14A as the lawyer advised? Do I wait for her to file or see if she just leaves her in the school?
I don't want to look like I am the parent always bringing the motions to the court. I just want a stable school environment for our daughter. If she calms and allows her to stay I don't want to take sole decision making as I agreed to try shared custody. However I also don't want her to pull her out, or try and file a contempt on me? Part of me thinks I should follow the lawyers advice and file because this situation needs to get sorted.
Any advice or opinions would be appreciated I feel like I need to make a decision tomorrow?
Mom refused to register child in school. I was advised by a lawyer that because mom has more weeknights that I should allow mom a chance to register and not fight it (I didn't want the move to that school for multiple reasons dealing with child's special needs, change in board, and it would be her 7th school, 10th home) However I did work with mom to start the process and emailed with mom that she needed to do her end. I also reminded her and she continued to originally say no then said it was done and she was all set to start the first day.
I arrived with our child first day of school to find out mom has never contacted them, there is no spot for our daughter. That she wouldn't be able to start until mom brings in the information and that there would have to be a meeting before they could even accept her. I also learned from principal and Sert that mom never talked to them, the class size discussed was false, the ea issue was false.
After talking with a lawyer and asking my daughter where she wanted to go to school (she is 10 and a half) without telling her to much detail I enrolled her in the school she chose, which I also felt was a better fit.
Smaller class, she has attended there for 2 (not last year though mom moved her when I bought my home in school zone), she could stay for remainder of elementary school, IEP and Identification automatically follows her she has autism, she has friends here, and her siblings and cousins attend the school. 5 minutes from my house and about 12 minutes from moms.
Mom was notified today of the registration after everything was finalized as lawyer advised.
The lawyer also advised me to file a 14 and a 14 A asking for the school to stay where she is registered, and sole decision making regarding education.
Now She is freaking (which I expected) but she isn't threatening to take her out of the school, just to have me found in contempt, and see what legal steps she can take to switch her schools as she doesn't want her in my area school, she will not listen to any of my points and although even the principal at moms school choice felt the situation would be best if child stayed in my district due to her needs and what they can provide mom still wants child moved.
So my qustion is do I still file the 14 and 14A as the lawyer advised? Do I wait for her to file or see if she just leaves her in the school?
I don't want to look like I am the parent always bringing the motions to the court. I just want a stable school environment for our daughter. If she calms and allows her to stay I don't want to take sole decision making as I agreed to try shared custody. However I also don't want her to pull her out, or try and file a contempt on me? Part of me thinks I should follow the lawyers advice and file because this situation needs to get sorted.
Any advice or opinions would be appreciated I feel like I need to make a decision tomorrow?
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