School and access

[ChildLight]

I have had a 50/50 arrangement since January 2014 We have gone through mediation and are now in the court process. We have both arranged for the child to be registered in each school. We live in two different cities.

We had a case conference scheduled for August 18th but the respondent didn't show up. ( was in the hospital) the next conference date is for September 15th we both have done conference briefs and are both asking for the child to go to school in our district.

so since the respondent didn't show up the first week of school falls on her week. So now the respondent told me he's going to school in her district and will limit my access to the weekends. with out there being a temporary motion or my consent for him to go to school in that district.

What are my options? I am worried that since he's going to school in that district the judge will go go in her favour. Should I keep him if i get access on the weekend? should i put him in school in my district? or just give him back on monday and wait for the case conference?

[standing on the sidelines]

give him back on Monday if that is what your parenting agreement says. Don't play those games or it will backfire.

Wait till the case conference to get this sorted out.

[ChildLight]

there is no parenting agreement currently...

[standing on the sidelines]

I would just go by what routine has been established. Did the child go to school last year?

[Berner_Faith]

Who moved? If you two are in different districts one of you must have relocated. It always amazes me when people try to have 50-50 but don't live in the same school district.

You may not have a written agreement but you have 9 months of status quo where you have 50-50. It will look bad on you if you kept the child over your 50-50 time. Make arrangements to get the child to school on your weeks and wait for the judge to decide which school the child must attend.

[dad2bandm]

Who moved? If you two are in different districts one of you must have relocated...

Yes, I was going to ask this as well.
This is important to know. Who moved, and did the other party object?
Did the child go to school last year? If so, for what reason did the move happen?

I hope you are using a written form of communication for all of this, when speaking/communicating to your ex. If not, you should be, so that you have documentation.

ex. "I'm keeping child registered in my school, and I will be limiting your time to child to weekends."

It would be useful to you, if you have that kind of crap documented in emails from your ex.

[HammerDad]

I would advise the ex that you don't consent to the child being registered in their district. Now, that is if the ex is the one that moved and your district is the one they were registered in years prior. If you moved, I say too bad. The kids should stay with their friends/familiar surroundings.

As for the parenting time arrangement. Advise the ex that you don't agree with their unilateral decision to alter the parenting time arrangement. That is in the child's best interests to maintain maximum contact with both parents. As such, it is your intention to continue with the established parenting time arrangement. That should they attempt to unilaterally alter the arrangement, you will seek an order in court cementing the 50/50 status quo.

[ChildLight]

update* she ended up giving him back to me on the original date we agreed upon. but she gave me a letter how i should change the arrangement. i disagreed of course and still put my child in school in my district for the remainder of the week until today the principal of my school called me and said that she complained so they wont let him go back to school in my district.

should i bring this up at my case conference next week? what are my options?

[HammerDad]

Who moved?

[ChildLight]

I moved in may 2012, but then my child lived with me primarily since july 2012 to December 2013, after that it was 50/50

[Dadx5]

So are you trying to get the child to continue to attend the school they were in last year?

[ChildLight]

So are you trying to get the child to continue to attend the school they were in last year?

this is the first year he is going to school it's for jk

[Berner_Faith]

You said your court date was Sept 15, that's next Monday. I would make it known to the school in Mom's district that you do not consent to the child being registered there and that you have a court date set for Sept 15th. The child is only entering jk, he won't miss much by not going the first couple of weeks. The last thing you want it for him to start getting nervous from school because he is being pulled from school to school. Wait until the 15th, let the Judge decide or you two agree and then register the child. JK is not mandatory and children do not have to be enrolled in school until they are 6 years old. Wait this out and don't confuse your child.

[Tayken]

Who moved? If you two are in different districts one of you must have relocated. It always amazes me when people try to have 50-50 but don't live in the same school district.

You won't believe the number of OCL/Section 30 evaluators that don't understand this. It is baffling why parents cannot agree on stabilizing their children's neighborhood that they live in.

Some parents have no foresight. What about access to their friends? School? Activities?

Good Luck!
Tayken

[Tayken]

I moved in may 2012, but then my child lived with me primarily since july 2012 to December 2013, after that it was 50/50

You moved you lose. Move back to the child's habitual residential location. You will lose. Especially if the cities are in two different court districts. (e.g. Toronto vs Region of Peel)

Good Luck!
Tayken