Hi
We lent money to his nephew and I kept asking for something in writing. He wouldn't do it. Finally he did this November. I wondered why all of a sudden he did it. I just realized. He wanted it as proof that I agreed to the amount lent. He is expecting me to pay half. He has paid the same amount each month and I do have an e-mail with a calculator on it and his name on top with the payments they were making. He called to take me off of our life insurance in Aug, called lawyer in August as well and also 3 times in September. He also talked me into lending his brother money to start a business. In total, probably 90,000 with nephew and brother. I asked him about how much he gave him and he said oh not that much. I thought it was quite a bit. I did find a recent email that he sent me and in it he stated a lot less than he had told me it was he leant. He also cashed out silver, but it was bought high and he sold low so what can I do about that??? Some of it was my father's money when he was alive. and bought with his money. He is an emotional narc abuser with psychopathic tendencies my psychiatrist said. I have suffered depression for years. Councillor thinks it's because of our relationship and how he treats me. I read a book about it and I thought OMG I have been saying these things for years. Jeckyl and Hyde, manipulator, all about him, his way or the highway, can't reason with him, stops talking, last month of our marriage was that and went on through out our marriage, walked on eggshells, projects, slammed doors, would blow, never knew when, etc. I do feel relieved since he is gone. Can do things the way I want and not feel belittled. He also had no empathy.
Any thoughts?
We lent money to his nephew and I kept asking for something in writing. He wouldn't do it. Finally he did this November. I wondered why all of a sudden he did it. I just realized. He wanted it as proof that I agreed to the amount lent. He is expecting me to pay half. He has paid the same amount each month and I do have an e-mail with a calculator on it and his name on top with the payments they were making. He called to take me off of our life insurance in Aug, called lawyer in August as well and also 3 times in September. He also talked me into lending his brother money to start a business. In total, probably 90,000 with nephew and brother. I asked him about how much he gave him and he said oh not that much. I thought it was quite a bit. I did find a recent email that he sent me and in it he stated a lot less than he had told me it was he leant. He also cashed out silver, but it was bought high and he sold low so what can I do about that??? Some of it was my father's money when he was alive. and bought with his money. He is an emotional narc abuser with psychopathic tendencies my psychiatrist said. I have suffered depression for years. Councillor thinks it's because of our relationship and how he treats me. I read a book about it and I thought OMG I have been saying these things for years. Jeckyl and Hyde, manipulator, all about him, his way or the highway, can't reason with him, stops talking, last month of our marriage was that and went on through out our marriage, walked on eggshells, projects, slammed doors, would blow, never knew when, etc. I do feel relieved since he is gone. Can do things the way I want and not feel belittled. He also had no empathy.
Any thoughts?