I recently dropped the kids (v young) to the ex in a neutral location (parking lot at a mini mall). I am not sure why but just after they were in her car she basically lost it in an raging fit.
I won't get into all of the details but to summarize when I was about to leave, she screamed VERY abusive crap at me, opened my car door (no permission), slammed it again knocking the dog across the seat, jammed my arm in her car window (I had asked her to open it) when I was stroking one of the kids heads trying to tell them everything was OK and proceeded to begin driving away with my arm stuck inside saying she wouldn't give the kids back to me ever.
Years ago before the divorce she was abusive both physically and mentally/emotionally but this was the first overt time since then in front of the kids (who were crying their eyes out). She doesn't seem to believe that she has any boundaries when she's in a rage (eg. it's my car, not hers and she cannot touch it) and now obviously doesn't care about traumatizing the children either. In her mind, whatever she did is somehow my fault. That's always the pattern.
Now nothing was serious enough for me to call the cops and I don't want to escalate things as she'll then try to end all contact with the children but I am also afraid that she will keep pushing boundaries and this will get worse over time. So my question is what should I do about it?
Specifically, I am wondering if a police report can be filed that will result in no charges (at my request) but would act as an official record of what she did without her knowing and being able to try to take revenge.
Oh and it's a guarantee that if things had been reversed and I had done the above I'd be sitting in jail right now and she'd be happy as heck. I'm not sure what to do but I need this to stop. It's years later and she still thinks it's perfectly ok to randomly fly into a rage and do whatever she wants.
Advice?
I won't get into all of the details but to summarize when I was about to leave, she screamed VERY abusive crap at me, opened my car door (no permission), slammed it again knocking the dog across the seat, jammed my arm in her car window (I had asked her to open it) when I was stroking one of the kids heads trying to tell them everything was OK and proceeded to begin driving away with my arm stuck inside saying she wouldn't give the kids back to me ever.
Years ago before the divorce she was abusive both physically and mentally/emotionally but this was the first overt time since then in front of the kids (who were crying their eyes out). She doesn't seem to believe that she has any boundaries when she's in a rage (eg. it's my car, not hers and she cannot touch it) and now obviously doesn't care about traumatizing the children either. In her mind, whatever she did is somehow my fault. That's always the pattern.
Now nothing was serious enough for me to call the cops and I don't want to escalate things as she'll then try to end all contact with the children but I am also afraid that she will keep pushing boundaries and this will get worse over time. So my question is what should I do about it?
Specifically, I am wondering if a police report can be filed that will result in no charges (at my request) but would act as an official record of what she did without her knowing and being able to try to take revenge.
Oh and it's a guarantee that if things had been reversed and I had done the above I'd be sitting in jail right now and she'd be happy as heck. I'm not sure what to do but I need this to stop. It's years later and she still thinks it's perfectly ok to randomly fly into a rage and do whatever she wants.
Advice?
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